Student

If there is no desire for approval, what is the point in doing anything? My husband has never said so far my cooking is fine.

Naran

What I say here is acknowledge your desire, release it and then do the work.

  • I release my desire for approval
  • Give him the food
  • He will appreciate it

If you don’t do the releasing then you will get angry that he has not appreciated your cooking.

If you ask me that’s why your Iddly is not coming out wellJ.

Try the following and tell me, how it works:

  • I release my desire for approval
  • Seeking approval is a form of seeking appreciation. Therefore, I release my desire for appreciation too.

Keep doing it!

  • Ask him, “Why you didn’t appreciate about the food, that I had cooked for you”. Nevertheless, do not have emotion when you ask that.
  • Even if you get angry, have anger, but affirm, ‘I release my desire to change my husband’.
  • Keep chanting that as affirmation. Now you ask him why he did not appreciate.