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I love to take control of my life
Naran
- Reflect on your life.
- Find in what situation you blamed others. Forgive them.
Who is the controller of your life?
Is it me?
You cannot control your life. If you fall down you will have to go to the hospital. I do not have control.
Then what is the meaning of this statement. When I surrender to the Divinity only, I will take control of my life.
Let us go deeper now. I am not the doer and Divine is the doer. This we will accept lovingly.
Here we have to cultivate the habit that you are not the doer. What happens when I am the doer?
Everything will be wrong then. But everything goes right when you think that Divine is the doer. When you think that Divine is the doer, there will be surrender.
A tendency to blame others
We always have the tendency to blame others.
We say, “I didn’t have proper sleep because my wife always disturbs me”.
When there is no power supply we blame the government.
When I am hurt in an accident, we say, “I was properly walking but that auto fellow came and hit me”.
In ordinary life, for each and every situation or event we will be blaming others.
Who is spoiling me in my life?
When you blame others you have to remember that he is also not the doer. Nobody is responsible for this.
When I am not the doer we happily accept that. When your work is blocked or delayed, the divine is waiting for the right time and he is the doer.
When you bring this thinking you can take control of your life.
Till such time you are blaming others you are not in control of your life.
So, whatever may be the problem, think that the Divine is the doer! The problem will be solved automatically. Then only you can take control of your life.
Abusing somebody who had asked for a donation
If you had insulted somebody unnecessarily then you will be insulted unnecessarily.
Somebody wanted a donation from Arun for charity purpose. He rejected him giving not only flimsy reasons but also criticized him vehemently.
Later, after two years, he was charged by custom authorities and asked him to pay more.
We do not observe life at all. The person who came for donation was wounded. Now Arun is wounded. This is law of life.
Therefore, whatever you do, release you desire, emotions behind it and then do it.
You can be a King and Be a Buddha too!!!
Radhika
I have realized the more I ask for, be it from you (I asked for a job, family harmony, curing skin issues) or simply from God, it has always been granted to me. I am really grateful for it.
Sometimes I think, God has me in his special list. However, now I feel guilty. It’s like some loop of desires.
Now, I want to get married to a wonderful, understanding and loving husband. After I get that, I will want a child. Then it will be her/his education, desires, life, and money.
I thought life’s aim is to be detached from the world and arise out of all the attachments. And what I seek is totally different from what I ask for.
If I keep asking and one day if I don’t get it, will be the reason for my sorrow. So, finally my search for happiness will drive me to sorrow, isn’t it?
I want to give up all attachments and live and enjoy in this world at the same time. I don’t understand my path of life.
I need guidance. Please help!
You are one person who I truly revere. I sometimes wonder how you have so much patience to read and reply to so many queries.
Everyone here is always asking, and always wanting things. I don’t blame them. You provide solutions which work. It gives all of us high hopes, a ray of light!!!
Naran
If we think that everything is provided by God and thank him with the open heart daily, we will get inordinate joy.
Whatever is good, he will give it to me. If anything is not needed, he will deny it. If we think in this manner, there is no sorrow.
By thanking him or by adoring him we are not adding up even 1% to his divinity. But, wondering at the way the Divine field operates and thanking for everything, will make us content.
Your greatest teacher is living within your heart.
Every day, in the morning say, “I OPEN and ALIGN myself – all parts of my consciousness – with the GRACE of DIVINE LOVE, BEAUTY, and HARMONY”.
Just close your eyes and start thanking what happened on the previous day.
A nice question!!!
Best of luck!
Manifesting Divine Love in Your Life
Naran
How to manifest Divine Love in every situation of your My Life?
- Draw a circle in a piece of paper.
- Draw another small circle in the middle of the big circle. In that circle write the word “MY”.
- Divide the big circle into four packets. Write “Physical health” in the first packet, “Relationship” in the second packet, “Profession” in the third packet and “Spiritual life” in the fourth packet.
- Keep that paper in your left hand, close it with your right palm and chant the switch words, “CONCEDE CLEAR CENTRE FIND DIVINE LOVE” continuously,while tapping the left palm
- Visualize all areas of your life is filled with Divine Love. All the four departments of life should be given equal importance. Therefore,they should be in proper balance, in your life.
How to manifest Divine Love in all your desires?
- First, list out all your desires.
- Analyze each and every one of them.
- Take one desire. Find out whether this desire is in tune with the Divine Love.
- Find out when this desire is fulfilled,will you receive more love or not. If the answer is ‘no’, then drop the desire as our desire should not be in conflict with the environment.
Why should we heal when divine is the doer
Sangitha
If everything that happens is pre-written as you say in your workshops then why do you conduct workshops on healing techniques?
If everything is pre-willed as per your statement, why do I need to heal myself?
Naran
We should understand that we do not know what is pre-written. Divine grace is beyond what has been written. Sometimes, divine re-writes what was written.
Alternatively, it may erase what was written and write something totally new.
Divinity Intervenes…
Also, the divine grace might act without our calling too. It can act even when we call it too.
Therefore, instead of remaining helpless, brooding and wailing over situations, we should call and pray for a divine intervention. Healing is nothing but asking the divine to intervene.
Healing means action. It is done without expectation. In Saankya Yoga (Sloka45) Lord Krishna said, “Nir Yoga Kshe’ma Atmavan Bava”.
It means one has to align oneself with the soul to remain calm and composed.
Sangitha
Does that mean I need not do anything?
Naran
Knowing fully well that anyone would think like this, Lord Krishna also said when he talked about Karma Yoga, “You need to perform action. Without action you will wither. Just do it. However, don’t have the desire on the result, while doing the karma (work). Also, don’t stop doing your karma.”
In accordance with what the lord said, healing is done without expectation. If divinity intervenes then it is well and good. If it does not, it is good too. How?
When you get what you want…
When you get what you want after the healing, it is for your highest good and therefore you can confidently move forward thinking that it’s right for you.
When you get what you do not want…
On the other hand, when you don’t get what you want after the healing, even then it is for your highest good. If the divinity does not intervene, then what has been pre-written is good for you.
This is the acknowledgment you have got from the divine. Now, you can confidently think of other alternatives.
Healing alone can make both the results – wanted and unwanted, good. That is the power of healing and prayers.
Thus Healing is…
Healing is nothing but a prayer.
Healing is a call to divinity.
Healing realigns us with the divine.
Healing makes the mind accept what is given to us.
Healing makes our minds remains calm and composed.
Divine will enter or reveal itself only when the mind is calm.
Healing makes you understand the ways of divine better.
Healing refines our thinking and attitude.
Healing pulls us out of ignorance.
Healing is the step towards divinity.
Divinity is our nature. Let us become divine through healing. Let us thank healing because it is a tool to make us divine and through healing let us ascend from the human plane to divine plane.
– Naran S. Balakumar, during a Reiki class, 2003
Saambavi
This is very good. I have also been thinking about it.By healing we do not mean to focus on the events.
We focus on the mind as because mind alone perceives or defines the problem, and judges the situation as good or bad.
Healing aligns you to the soul by giving you the ‘no mind’ state. Thus healing is done for the mind and not for the events.
No mind means no thoughts and no problems either.
That is the state where we go beyond good or bad, and that is the state of the soul. Till we reach the no mind state, we need healing, not for the events but for the mind itself.
– Wednesday, September 9, 2009, 9:52 AM
R Mohan
I am touched by what Saambavi has written. I was doing Reiki for healing a situation. Though, I felt that I was healing the clutter and darkness in me.
I thought may be as usual Balakumar have not told us what he actually implies. I decided that I will try myself before questioning him and keep giving Reiki for the situation.
I am glad Saambavi has put it better as I can expect her always, by which I understand that we don’t give Reiki to the situation, but to ourselves. Thanks Saambavi for the explanation.
–Wednesday, September 9, 2009, 4:14 PM
Why can’t I be happy?
Client
I had been trying out all the mantras and switch words you had suggested to me. I had been religiously taking the remedies you had recommended. Yet I am not seeing the results I want.
I still don’t have a good job. My marriage is in shambles. Neither my parents nor my in-laws are happy about me.
Luckily, I am yet to have kids. Otherwise, I am afraid they will be cursing me too.
My simple question to you is, “Why can’t I be happy and lead a satisfactory life-like others?”
Sorry! I am feeling very skeptical here and feeling much disappointed too.
Naran
A Few questions to you first
What is “Thanks”?
What is “Acceptance”?
Why should we accept everything totally – whether what is happening in our life is to our liking or not?
When I am lucky…
I want.
I pray.
I get what I want.
I thank the Divine.
But I forget to pray for others who have not got because of my getting.
When I am not lucky…
I want.
I pray.
But, I am denied.
I feel sad or angry instead of thanking for not getting what I want.
In other words, I am resenting the gift to someone.
This sadness of anger over my not getting is truly resenting others and denying the Divine Orderby violating the quantum law: “All is one. One is all”.
Why can’t I be unhappy, when I fail, you may ask?
When I resent or feel sad, I cannot receive when my turn comes (yes! it comes to you one day for sure).
Therefore, when I am denied, I accept and thank god for giving to someone.
I thank God,because my prayers got someone what he wanted.
Denial to me is a gift to someone who needs more than me.
So I Thank the Divine
Let me feel happy about it.
Let me accept it.
With OPEN HEART and QUIET MIND, I ACCEPT and THANK the DIVINE for anything and everything in my life.
I thank when I receive.
I thank when I am denied, whileothers receive.
So I Thank the Divine in Advance, for one day, my wants will be fulfilled, my prayers will be answered, and I will receive the gifts I desire as I have understood today that my acceptance and attitude of gratitude at any stage will get me everything, when my turn comes.
I deserve the best!!
An exercise to get the best – taken from the book – “I Love Myself’ Workbook
Naran
Ask the questions…
- What is your purchase behavior?
- Do you go for cheap and best?
- Or only for the best?
Analyze your attitudes behind your purchasing habits
The funny thing is both are opposites. If you want something cheaper then you won’t get the best. Likewise, if you want the best then you won’t get it cheap either.
When will you deserve best?
I deserve the best means then you should not be influenced by anybody else’s decision. When will “I deserve the best” happen?
First, you have to find out when you give something, whether you give it without any inhibition.
- Ask the question before you give, “Am I giving this without any inhibition?”
We discriminate in our treatment to others
When we attend a wedding, we give some presentation. Whatever we have in our house, we pack it and give it. There is so much inhibition in giving what we have received from somebody else.
Even there we may differentiate from one person to another.
Like for example, we might have decided in the mind that this should be given to Mr. A, while we should give something else to Mrs. B. We also quantify while giving, like so much to Mr. A and so much to Mrs.B.
However, we should not do either of them.
Why we don’t deserve the best
Suppose we have some costly item like a silver vessel. We think that it may cost Rs.1000. But, when you weigh the vessel, we find the value to be Rs.5000.
So we think this person does not deserve this much costly and therefore we will buy him something else.
If these behaviors are present in us then we will not get the best and we do not deserve the best.
How to be deserving for the best
While giving, you must give with full heart. These are the tests given by the Divine.
If someone asks money we must give it. But at that time we may not have so much money. At that time you may not be in a position to give him money. Then give him Reiki.
The beggar is not asking for the money, but the divine is…
The beggar may beg for some money from you. The auto driver may demand money from you. There is no difference between the two.
If he asks Rs.150 for a trip then give him as the Universe wants the money to go from your hand. Instead, if you hold the amount, eventually you may have to spend 10 times the money in a different way.
Whenever it has to be given, give it. It is not the auto driver who is asking the money, it is not the beggar who is begging for the money.
On the other hand, to balance between receiving and giving the Universe is asking from you.
If you develop this kind of attitude, giving will not become prohibitive to you.You will give easily and there will not be any blocks inside you.
Giving on a No-cost Basis
If we have to give at any cost then we can send Reiki by chanting “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME LOVE THANKS DIVINE”.
However, do not allow others to exploit you
Giving does not mean that you should allow others to cheat you.
If someone asks for donation, use your discretion. For paying the auto driver, when you travel occasionally by auto, then do not fight with him, but give him whatever he demands.
Moving in the Right Direction
The following discussion happened between Kumar and Naran a couple of years back on how to be successful and happy in both family front and work-front.
Kumar
Even though I am doing well in the job front like getting due recognition and awards for the work done, somehow I do not feel cheerful or happy about anything.
Neither the stuff at home seems to be going in the right direction. My wife is worried about our children because of their indifference and inadequate efforts towards their education and life in general.
I am not in my best of my abilities. Need to get back to Flowers, Reiki and Affirmations. Somehow, I would like to see myself getting back to my rhythm.
Naran S. Balakumar
It is the nature of mind to keep you either down or up. Understand and believe that you are not your mind. Rise up.
We all have taken birth as per the Divine Will and by Divine order.
Our Family, our Friends and our Environment always teach us.
Every relationship is a blessing and we have to rise through these relationships.
Everybody is there in your life, as per the divine order and we should try to love and heal them and make them come up in the ladder of life.
Whether they come up or not it is their choice. Do not have expectations about anybody. Your children will definitely come up in their life – but in their own way.
Fill up your mind with enthusiasm and believe that everything happens as per the divine order. When you believe that whatever happens is not good for you, chant (daily) the Switch Words, “TOGETHER FIND DIVINE ORDER BE NOW DONE”.
It will put you back in life.
Using switch words is nothing but accepting and surrender. We do not know what will happen and we will be surprised at the turn of events after chanting.
Feedback from Kumar
I have started chanting from last night. It was a great feeling of relief and clarity. I read it to my wife and she is chanting too.
Might be menopause
Lura
What is the best Switch Word to get rid of tingling sensation for hands especially atnight while sleeping?
Naran
It may be a deficiency of CA MG and Potassium. What is your age?
Lura
I am in my mid-forties.
Naran
Do you have any physical problem – diabetes or BP?
Lura
Yes, I have high BP and recently I am missing my periods for last 4 months. It might be menopause.
Naran
I suggest you to treat your high BP with pranayama and yoga.
Take calci phos, mag phos and kali phos, each 6x, buy these tablets from homeopathy shop and take three each, for three times a day.
Consult a doctor for menopause.
Take the Bach flower remedy WALNUT.
Chant the mantra, “VAJRESWARI VAAMADEVI VAYOVASTHAA VIVARJITHA” as many times as possible.
Lura
I did take allopathic medication. But, after several side effects, I started taking Ayurvedic medicine and was doing well.
But, last few months, 2 or 3 days before my period started, my BP always gets very low and gets normal after my period started.
And after my period is over, I used to have high BP for a day. This was just like a routine for me.
I talked to my family doctor, he said it’s hormonal. On the top of that 2012 Feb, twice I had periods.
After that I lost my period for 4 months. Since last year, 2012 Dec, I am getting sick almost every day both physically and mentally.
I just can’t take this anymore. I want to live and enjoy life just like others.
Naran
If it is normal ignore it.
The body is trying to adjust to the menopause period. I suggested you WALNUT, which will help you to adjust.
Menopause is a period of hormonal withdrawal preparing the body to handle aging. Co-operate with the body by shedding your fear.
Take MIMULUS (for fear) along with Walnut. Our fear about the body prevents the body from healing itself.
Thank your periods, your uterus, and your menopause.
Chant “I allow the body to adjust to this phase of life”.
Make Your Communication Effective
Naran S Balakumar
You want others to understand you…
When you think, others are not listening to you and that you are misunderstood, call upon the Animal Spirit Guide Cuckoo.
Then the opposite person will listen to you thanks to Cuckoo. When you are praying to Cuckoo, either visualize the person or keep his photograph and then pray.
If something does not happen, to reach up to the divine time, keep Cuckoo with you.
Develop patience
During situations, ‘So many years we are looking for a groom’, and ‘No promotion in sight’, Cuckoo will give you required patience.
Message from Cuckoo
If you sight a Cuckoo, then stop gossiping as you are talking bad about a person behind their backs.
Face any Confrontation without fear
If you expect a confrontation, take the picture of Animal Spirit Guide Crab and show it to them.
Message from Crow
If you sight a crow in an unusual circumstance then something good and big will happen to you.