Forgiveness How and Why
Don’t forget to pay your dues even if you have good reasons
Naran S Balakumar
A client of mine, let us call him Robert, wanted to sell his house. The case history is on how forgiveness exercise helped him to sell the house.
If you are about to sell your house, first do the forgiveness exercise for the house as well as on the land the house is built on. Keep them on the left palm and do the ‘I am sorry’ mantra.
When you are about to sell the land do the ‘I am sorry’ mantra for the land and for your own body also.
Robert told me that he is not able to sell his house on Neelankarai – a prime location in Chennai. It’s an independent property valued at a few crores of rupees.
However, he couldn’t find any buyers, even though so many visited the property, giving one reason or other.
He tried many remedies and chanted switch words too. He also kept the black tourmaline in the house. But, nothing seems to work.
Then I told him to do forgiveness exercise for his parents. After doing so, he found a buyer, who gave him some money as advance towards buying the house.
They fixed the date for registering the sale of the house. The very next day, the buyer met with an accident and was admitted in a hospital.
Robert’s friends commented that there could be an issue with the land. So, he took the (healing remedy) spray from me and sprayed it on the house.
In spite, of all these remedial measures, there was no further progress in getting the house sold. To add to the misery, the buyer’s phone was switched off and so he couldn’t be reached.
So Robert concluded that this buyer is also gone. He complained to me why nothing seems to be working for him after all the remedial measures were taken.
I asked him, “Whether something wrong happened at the time of constructing the house. Where there were any disputes while settling the amount with your engineer, mason and others?”
He said yes. It seems he had an issue with his mason and so he didn’t give the final settlement to him.
It is a practice in this side of the world, when there is a house warming session, the house owner has to settle all the bills and give a gift to all the workers – in the form of money or dress.
Robert didn’t follow that custom saying that they had overspent on the construction activities.
Along with writing the prosperity statements, I asked Robert to do the forgiveness exercise for the mason.
Even though 10 years has passed after constructing the house, I told Robert to find the mason and give him the money he owed to him along with some interest amount for the delayed period.
I told him, “If you are ready to pay the mason then do the forgiving exercise. You cannot withhold somebody’s money in the name of principles”.
His heart also got mellowed down after doing the forgiving exercises.
Forgiving exercises without your knowledge will warm-up your heart with love. Love is a flame. It is a winning fire. But that fire, if you touch it is cool.
That’s what happened to Hanuman’s tail. Hanuman appeared cool because of the wishes of Sita, who prayed to Agni Bhagavan. In spite of the fire in his tail, he remained cool. The Agni Bhagavan obliged Sita’s request and didn’t affect Hanuman in any way.
Love is always a soul’s fire in your heart.
He found the mason. See the act of the divine. How well the divinity operates. After so many years, Robert had no choice but to pay to mason.
Whatever money you had to pay from your pocket, has to be paid (one time or other).
It is the divine web that connects all of us. Each and every minute and every second is the grace of the divine. Even a cursory glance of the divine will make everything happen.
When he entered the house of the mason, he found out that some festivity is happening in mason’s house. The mason was organizing a wedding for his daughter. He was in need of money then.
When Robert handed over the money to Mason, the latter was immensely happy because he needed that money desperately and how divine made Robert to give the money in the need of the hour.
Whenever divine wants you to get the money, you will get the money.
When Robert came back home, he received a call from the prospective buyer giving his intention to register the house at the earliest.
Essence of the Forgiveness
Naran S Balakumar
We have to ask for forgiveness only from the divine and not from anybody
Forgiving doesn’t mean that you have to forgive somebody or somebody else has to forgive you
Forgiving is the direct address to divine
Mostly, our life is based on ego.
Understand that forgiving is not condoning the other person or requesting other person to forgive us.
One important point in forgiving is that in addition to forgiving a person or an event, you have to forgive your parents also.
Divinity is behind every action and every move we take.
Sankalpham (intention) is always a must. Without it nothing can happen. Intention is very important.
You have to say the ‘I am sorry mantra’ fully – “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME LOVE THANKS DIVINE LIGHT CHANGE”
The Gun Mudra is a giving Mudra.
Forgiveness can get you a promotion
Archana’s friend from college was having problems in his office. He was not treated well and neither was given any promotion for last two years.
She asked him to do forgiveness exercise for his colleagues including his manager. On the day of his job appraisal she asked him to chant “LARCH” (for self-confidence).
Needless to say, now he is having a great time in his office and got promoted too.
Questions on Forgiving Exercise
Varsha Patil
I read your book on Forgiveness, such a wonderful book, worth reading, worth to give as a gift too. I have few questions on that.
1) You have mentioned that we can use the following two affirmations, a) I am sorry, please forgive, Love thanks divine and b) I (my name) forgive you (other name). You please forgive me, and release me,
I always felt more connected to 1st sentence, it seems so rhythmic too while chanting, and I get that goody – goody vibes while chanting it. So instead of second affirmation can I say like this?
“Other Person’s Name) I am sorry, please forgive, Love thanks divine”
Both affirmations work in same manner or different?
2) While releasing anger, unfulfilled wishes, expectations, fear, or hatred feeling, we can chant the second statement. But what if I have some hidden anger towards my past company, so can I chant the NAME OF COMPANY or any Particular PLACE/ APARTMENT.
E.g.,” I VARSHA Forgive you SIGMA INTERIORS PVT. LTD. You please forgive me, and release me.”
For a House or apartment or place, “I VARSHA Forgive you 302, ROSE VILLA*, you Please forgive me, and release me.” (* above names are imaginary)
3) For forgiving many people u have told to mention everybody’s name. I was recalling each and every person since my childhood, till time, whom I had hurt by anyhow, any means – either by direct verbal fight, either by abusing, or cursing them mentally, or either making them hurt knowingly – unknowingly.
And even I want to forgive all people who intentionally – unintentionally gave me misery or any kind of pain. I categorized people as, FAMILY, FRIENDS, OFFICE, RELATIVES, COLLEGE, Others, ORGANIZATION etc.
I even want to forgive and wanted to get forgiven by all those, whom I don’t know personally, like:
- Auto or Taxi guy – with whom I had fight on charging me wrong fare.
- Thieves – who pick pocketed my wallet 3 times, who stole my cell phone, who robbed our house.
- Shopkeepers – who were sometime bit disappointed for selling their goods to me at low price
- Or me who was unhappy when I knew shopkeeper charged me much more than market value.
All these disappointments, agony, worries, hatred, feelings which had been raised at some life span. I really – really wanted to get over of all these feelings and feel to give lot of LOVE n LIGHT every person interacting with me, in past, present and in future.
Please answer above 3 questions.
Naran
You have nicely put your questions.
You can do so.
The second one is more relevant in the case of family.
For everything you mentioned, take one by one every day and put them in silver triangle and transform into light and love.
She was driven out of the house by her husband
Naran S Balakumar
One of my clients, let us call her Sheela, was abandoned by her husband and was driven out of the house. However, they didn’t go for any legal proceedings to get separated permanently.
At the soul realm or soul level there is no such thing as a marriage. It happens only in the earth realm.
We give so much importance for a husband-wife relationship. Anyway that is life. We have to be born, get married and have children. In the earth realm, marriage is very important to us as we yield to the pressures of the society.
That’s why we think that divorce is very bad. It is not like that.
“Whatever happens is a divine plan. I accept and surrender to it” – if you have this attitude then divine will always save you.
We have to trust the divine. But, we try to control our life in many ways.
Let us go back to the story which vindicates the presence of the divine. What is impossible for human beings is possible for divine.
When she was driven out of the house, she was doing her MBA – a post-graduation course. She didn’t know where to go as she had been a homemaker until now.
She went back to her parents, who tried to unite the couples, but failed. Finally, she decided that she will stand on her own legs.
Meanwhile, I gave her flower remedies and switch words, in addition to forgiveness exercise to do for her husband. I wanted her to believe that divine will always be there with her.
She got herself employed as a private cook for a family. She had the guts and will-power to stand in her own legs to serve as a cook even though she is a graduate.
She was earning only a paltry sum and yet she was managing her life by herself. And all the while, she was continuing to do the forgiveness exercise for her husband.
‘THIKATRAVARUKKU THEIVAME THUNAI’ – a Tamil saying which says that for those who don’t have anybody to look forward to, god alone is the company. That trust should be there is us.
Her employers found out her background – especially her discontinuation of her MBA. They made arrangements for her to continue in a private university in Hyderabad.
They sponsored her course. Sheela completed her MBA and eventually joined as a HR staff in the same university.
The story doesn’t end here…
After one year of service, her husband applied for some job vacancy in the same university. Fortunately or unfortunately, as a HR Executive she was in the interview panel.
After the interview was over, he met her personally and cried in front of her. He asked her to forgive him and was willing to reunite with her, provided she is also interested.
She asked for my opinion as she couldn’t come to any decision. Normally, I don’t influence others with my opinion as my job is to assist people in their healing process.
She showed her willingness to join him. I asked her whether she could trust him.
She replied to me, “I have the confidence in myself that I can change others as I have changed. Also, I am very much confident in the forgiveness exercise and in the flower remedies that even if there is a problem (between us), I can change myself and him”.
They married once again to satisfy some astrologer’s suggestions.
That’s the power of forgiving exercise. That is the power of ‘DIVINE LIGHT CHANGE’.
Expect a Problem, then you will invite them indirectly
Naran S Balakumar
When you expect a bad thing to happen then it will always happen.
For example, your Manager calls you to discuss something with him inside his room.
Immediately, you will start thinking of so many things – ‘I might be transferred to some place’ or ‘He might criticize me for something I have done (or not done)’ and so on.
Whatever you think, then will happen.
Whenever you expect something bad to happen, immediately think about the problem and start chanting ‘I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME LOVE THANKS DIVINE LIGHT CHANGE’.
Expecting something bad to happen, will always happen. Fear will always manifest for you, what you fear.
Specifically Forgiving a Person Part II
Naran S Balakumar
Problem with your manager
Say you have a problem with your manager. You do the forgiving exercise for him like this, “I Govind forgive you <manager’s name>. You please forgive me and release me”.
Forgiving more than one person at a time
Somebody wants to know whether they can forgive two to three people at the same time, say something like this, “I Priya forgive you Raj, Govind, Tom. You please forgive me and release me”.
No. Do it specifically for the person whom you need to forgive first. Then you do it for the rest of the people you need to forgive, one person at a time.
For life situations
However, for a given life situation, use the ‘I am sorry Please forgive me Love Thanks Divine Light Change’ mantra.
Healing your body is a must
Naran S Balakumar
For all your business purposes, for your prosperity and for any money-related issues, you have to do the forgiveness exercise for your body organs.
When you have to receive money from outside, when you want to increase your abundance, prosperity etc., or when you want to be a successful business person, always do body organs healing first. That method is very important.
More and more you ask for forgiveness from your body, more and more you will prosper outside. How? The body is directly connected with the universal energy.
For those who doesn’t know how to do the forgiveness exercise for the body organs, touch one of your body organs, say your liver, and chant the ‘I am sorry mantra’ few times. Then move on to the next part of the body.
Your past can haunt you
Naran S Balakumar
Beware! Your past can come back and haunt you, if you don’t forgive!
Rajan around 45 years became jobless suddenly and he had to search for a new job.
He applied for the job in a group company in which he had served earlier for 10 years from the age of 21.
Interview was over. He was shortlisted and informed that he can expect the appointment order soon.
During the (candidate) verification process, it was found that he had some altercation with his ex-supervisor and resigned.
Since he was not given clean chit by his ex-superior, who is still in that company, he could not get his new job.
“Naran, if I had known this earlier. I would have done the forgiving exercise” he told me.
I asked him to do the forgiving exercise 101 times a day for the next one month. He did like this, “I Rajan forgive you my ex-boss. Please forgive me and release me”.
He did this for more than 10 days.
He was again got a call from his ex-company, but this time from some other division. This time Rajan’s ex-boss gave an ok feedback. Rajan has secured the job successfully.
Please forgive me Karipatta
Sunil
My wife is from Bihar. I am from Bangalore. Thus, our eating habits were different.
She always used to put Karipatta in Pulav or Upma. So, I always used to question her, “Why you put Karipatta when we are not going to eat it”.
One day, in my food, I saw three pieces of Karipatta and questioned my wife once again, “Why did you put it?”
Soon after, a single piece of Karipatta got stuck in my throat. I was choking.
Immediately, I imagined the Karipatta and I said the forgiveness mantra – ‘I Sunil forgive you Karipatta. Please forgive me and release me. ’
Immediately, the Karipatta got released from my mouth.
Naran
Karipatta has forgiven you J