Bad Spouse

Kavita

My husband has started defaming me on social networking sites now. Please let me know if I’ll ever be able to win back his lost love for me?

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for him

Download a picture of Emerald and keep it under the pillow.

Chant “AGRIMONY, CRAB APPLE, ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”

Good Spouse

D

At the end of a life of total sacrifice and devotion to her partner in dharma, didn’t mother Sita cry in anguish and say ‘Mother take me into your lap. I can’t take this anymore!!!’, till mother earth parted to gather her pain.

This was in spite of having the most revered person Sri Rama as her husband and it being a world of Truth (Satya Yug)!

If it is ball comes that comes back as pain and suffering (or joy and happiness) what ball did mother Sita throw?

She is referring, “Have a Ball of Love”: http://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/have-a-ball-of-love/here.

Naran

A wonderful question!

Rama and Sita, yes they loved each other very intensely. Nothing can separate them. They had so much of trust in each other.

Then why did Rama deport Sita just for the sake of one dhobi (washer man) who questioned the chastity of Sita.

Is it because Ram also had the same doubt about Sita in him? No! It is a categorical no.

Rama’s love for Sita was so total and complete – we can also say they both represent the ideal husband wife relationship – that he could not have an iota of doubt at all.

Then why did he deport Sita to her utter dismay?

Rama was the one person who could understand the mass psychology better than anybody else.

Had he ignored the comment of the dhobi, thinking, “I know better? My Sita is beyond all this”, how many false stories would have been concocted, down the history tarnishing the image of Sita!

Because Ram did not want this to happen, he took the harsh decision against his own will.

For Rama, protecting Sita’s character was more important. Can anyone bear if his wife is blamed as characterless? Think how tormented he would have been, before taking the decision.

Rama had total trust in her. He is happily bearing all the blames people have been inflicting on him, just for the sake of his love for Sita.

Sita’s name is more important for which he sacrificed his name, taking the blame on him. Rama’s action is the vindication of Divine love.

On the day of SRI RAMA NAVAMI, let us have the blessing of the most Divine couple Sita and Rama SRI RAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM.

Final Note

Look at the plight of the lady who has asked me a question. How much torture she would have gone through, when her own husband writes badly about her, in social websites?