The mind body relationship: release your desire to control or change the person.
Meera is student of Naran S Balakumar. She is a Reiki Master.
She is almost the local guardian for Deepa, a young girl working in Chennai and staying in a hostel since her parents live in another town.
Meera and Deepa have shared a close relationship. Deepa has stayed in Meera’s house on countless occasions.
Nothing happened in Deepa’s life without Meera’s knowledge and Deepa came to her for advice on all matters big or small.
Deepa’s parents were seriously searching for a suitable groom for her and one day Deepa threw a bombshell to Meera, by declaring that she was marrying Dinesh, her office colleague in another 15 days’ time without informing her parents.
Meera was angry and hurt. The girl, who had consulted even for silly trifles, had kept a secret – an important matter concerning her love life.
Moreover from Deepa’s revelations, it also became clear that Dinesh was totally unsuitable in all ways and Deepa’s parents would have been heart- broken, if they come to learn of this marriage.
Meera tried to cajole and rebuke Deepa. She tried her level best, to dissuade her from pursuing this alliance.
She asked Deepa to consider her parents and the pain she would be causing them if she continued with her plan to marry Dinesh. Nothing seemed to make a difference.
Finally Meera persuaded Deepa to discuss the whole affairs with Naran and go by his advice in this regard.
Deepa had no problem with that, because she had known Naran even before her association with Meera and had consulted him on numerous other matters in the past.
After listening to the whole story, Naran intuitively felt that Dinesh’s family was caught in some negative karma and Deepa entering that family would make her life also enmeshed in the karmic trap.
He convinced her that only unhappiness would ensue from the alliance. Deepa decided to take his counsel and promised to abandon any plan of marrying Dinesh. Meera was very much relieved.
Naran suggested Deepa to gradually cut off ties with Dinesh. Since her parents were unaware of all that had transpired, there was no need to disturb their peace of mind by revealing the details.
Deepa acquiesced without a protest but from then on, the openness in her relationship with Meera, started missing.
Although on the surface, Deepa seemed as friendly as before, Meera sensed that there was a lot that Deepa was hiding from her since then.
One day in the midst of conversation Deepa let slip the fact that she was still associating with Dinesh. Meera was furious.
How could this girl whom she had treated almost like a daughter behave with such scant respect for her? In fact defying her very words?
She appraised Naran of the facts and his advice to her was to let things be as is. He also told her that she had done her best and now she must allow destiny to unfold. Meera decided to do so as advised.
A few days later, Meera woke up in the middle of the night with severe pain in her right shoulder. It was a pulling pain that kept her awake all night. In the morning things had not improved.
In fact Meera found that she could not use her right arm even for routine activities. In great pain she completed her morning tasks and not being the one who shirks her responsibilities, decided to go to her work place.
From there, she called Naran for help and was advised to take Rescue Remedy. All morning she took rescue remedy faithfully but to no avail. The pain continued relentlessly.
Just when she was sitting, mulling over her plight she got a call from a friend Sneha who is incidentally a student of Naran and a Reiki channel too.
When Sneha learnt of Meera’s pain her first question was “what mental cause did Naran assign to your pain”.
Meera was surprised. As a Reiki Master and a Bach Flower healer she had used the Mind – Body connection, while dealing with ailments and had advised many of her own patients to address mental level issues to relieve physical pain.
Yet in her own case, she had failed to draw the connection and so had Naran. Naran (Balakumar) often used to say that healers are at times blind to their own problems although they are very adept at healing others.
Meera immediately took off to see Naran to get enlightened on this matter. He then told her that it was suppressed anger that was behind the severe pain of the right shoulder.
Meera immediately said that the anger was against Deepa and her deceptive ways. Although Naran had advised Meera to let go, she had continued to advise Deepa to control or change her.
This was why the pain was “pulling”. The body was suggesting Meera through pain to stay away from Deepa. The nature of the pain itself gives a clue about the cause of the pain.
Naran asked her to repeat the following affirmation till the pain was released. “I release my desire to control or change anybody including Deepa. I willingly release Deepa to her destiny.”
As soon as Meera heard Naran’s words she realized her controlling tendencies. The very moment she acknowledged the mental cause of the pain healing began and the pain started reducing.
Right in front of Naran she started stating the affirmation repeatedly.
Within about 15 minutes the pain vanished completely. Tears of gratitude flew down Meera’s face as she thanked Naran profusely.
Indications: Right Shoulder means Anger and Right Side means Giving