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Worried About Losing My Friendship
Client
I have a misunderstanding with a friend of mine. I am not sure, next time when I meet her, whether she will properly talk to me or not.
For the last two days, I have this anxiety. So, I released all my anxiety. Now I feel ok.
However, I am worried, when I meet her next time how she will react and how will I handle it.
Naran
1. Release the anxiety (worry).
2. You are having a desire to keep the friendship going. Release this desire too.
You are only releasing the thought, emotions and desires. You are not stopping the actions (to be her friend).
Here, instead of the enacting the usual drama we create, we simply observe what is happening in our mind. We release and observe the whole incident as a third person.
Which is convenient – fearing about something or releasing?
In the end, we keep the mind blank – free from worries, anger and fears.
What are the ultimate results we gain due to this technique?
As long as we are working from a noisy mind, there will not be any solution to the problem.
By releasing all the emotions (and thoughts and desires) one after another, we are taking one step after another towards a litter-free (mind) zone, where we will be free of our emotions and thoughts.
Then the solution for the problem will be found automatically as that part of the mind (litter free zone) knows how to tackle the problem.
In this technique, we do no prayers.
If my house is full of garbage what will I do?
I will simply clear them isn’t it? When I remove all the clutters in the house it becomes good.
In the same way, I release all the clutters from my mind.
Desire is the motivator behind our actions. For me what is motivating me to seek friendship in my friend? There is a desire for approval operating in it. Release it.
When anything comes inside your mind, Just say, “Can I release? Yes. I release this. I let go this…”
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Not able to get accommodation
Client: For the past three or four months we are trying to get the accommodation for type 5 quarters. We are currently staying in type 3 quarters (smaller house).
My husband is a government employee and we are due to type 5 quarters (it’s a bigger one) for several months.
Naran: You are not able to get that.
What are the feelings you are having?
What if you don’t get it?
Client: I am unhappy about it.
Naran: How you are maintaining that unhappy feeling?
You have been saying you are not getting the apartment that is due to your husband.
What is the thought that goes on in your mind?
Whom you are blaming for this situation?
You have to consider all of them.
What are you doing about the situation?
Client: We are trying for the same. But for several reasons like – the type 5 apartment is not available and the houses are given based on priority, and we are not getting the apartment yet.
Naran: What are the other thoughts you are getting?
Why you are not getting the accommodation?
Who is responsible for that?
What are the feelings you get – like for example, “It is not unfair that houses are given first to senior people”?
List all of them.
Whatever you thoughts and whatever you had said about the individuals concerned – the people who had to allocate the house for you, just list them out. Release each and every one of them.
What are advantages going to type 5?
What disadvantages staying in type 3?
Write them out. Why I want to move away from type 3 quarters? There has to be some reasons. List them out, one after another.
There is one problem over which you might be thinking about. We need to unearth those thoughts.
Now work on your “Likes and dislikes”.
Presently there is lack of space means that it’s a dislike isn’t it? Therefore, you don’t like the current house. Then how will you get a new house?
As long as you don’t like the present house, which means you are rejecting the present house, you will not get any new house.
It’s a rule, “Accept the present that you don’t want, to get the one you want”.
Therefore, you to need to accept whatever are available to you currently and you release all the dislikes that you have about your present house.
You are continuously cursing that the space in the current house is not enough.
What will happen if you continue to do complain?
Even if you move to bigger house, eventually you will be faced with lack of space. How?
Your husband will get more books and some of your relatives will move in. In the current house, her husband has completely filled one room with books.
Another rule: same reaction will get you a similar result, if not the same result.
Say “I release my desire to go to type 5 quarters”.
This is very important.
Unconsciously you have the resistance to go to type 5 quarters. Therefore, say, “I release my resistance to go to type 5 quarters”.
What is meant by resistance to type 5 quarters?
There is a desire to be in type 3 quarters. Unconsciously, you want to be in type 3 quarters because there is some advantage staying there.
Client: The advantage staying in type 3 quarters is that we are staying in the ground floor.
Naran: You have a desire to be in ground floor. This desire stops you from moving to type 5. Release that desire to be in type 3 quarters.
For all (troublesome) situations we are the reason behind it.
Whether she gets type 5 quarters or not, that is a different issue. Clean the clutters of your mind.
If you have the feeling, “Let it come when it has to come” then only it will come to you.
Instead, till such time (until you get the type 5 quarters) a fight goes inside, spoils your mood and you feel tensed all the time.
In addition, always you are angry about concerned authorities and criticizing the government officials. Release each and everything.
In the morning (before you came for the class) you would have picked up a fight with your spouse. You can release that even now (thus past is healed).
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