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How to criticize others?

SD

By nature I am very candid and not diplomatic.

Also, I am very open to negative feedback too, when someone is giving me a feedback – at home or at work.

However, at home (mine is a joint family), everyone dislikes me since I am very frank. Although, I am very efficient with house work and do not compromise on my duties.

One of my boss (I have 2 bosses) was very good to me and appreciated my work etc, until a while ago when I was frank in expressing some work-related issue.

Now one boss is still ok, since he knows that I am good at work and I am very frank – that is my nature.

Another boss is all angry with me and at every meeting makes sure that he puts me down or talks negatively when it comes to my work.

Can I chant something please, especially that both my husband and my boss should start appreciating me?

Naran 

If you want to maintain your candidness, you can get these only.

You do not point out the mistake only. You point out the good points also. If you want to point the mistake then do it with love.

Related Posts

Others will criticize me: http://studyforsuccess.wordpress.com/2013/03/13/afraid-people-will-criticize-me/

I feel small, when he criticizes me: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/01/19/i-feel-small-when-he-criticizes-me-%E2%80%93-a-case-history/

Fulfill your desires easier

Kamakshi

I have gone through your blogs. Lalitham mantras are fantastic and working well.

My family’s deity is Lord Muruga. For this can I chant “LALITHAM SUBRAMANYAM LALITHAM KUMAARAM LALITHAM SHANMUGAM”?

M has the power to go in easily, which I read it from your site only. Hence, this idea has aroused to me. Please clarify.

Naran

Your coining is wonderful. I think Lord Muruga is suggesting this through your question.

Whenever we want to have anything for us, we also should think in what way it can be useful for others. Through your coining of words, I am asked by the divine to explain.

Lalitham makes us always secured. Kumaaram protects us like Mother. In other words, when our mother is there beside us, we feel safe; we are confident; we are assured to get what we need (it is not “what we want”).

The one beauty with this combination is that you can chant this at anytime and surrender intending “He knows when to fulfill anything (for me) at the right time”.

Shanmugam is strengthening our link with the Mother Earth.

“GAM” is for steady abundance.

When it is coined with “Sha” your receiving capacity will increase. 

“SUBRAMANYAM” (don’t say Maniam, but say Manyam) acts both on our Manipura and Heart chakras, releasing our ego and replacing it with Love.

When all the three “LALITHAM SUBRAMANYAM LALITHAM KUMAARAM LALITHAM SHANMUGAM” is chanted what will happen?

You will get the feeling that you are the child of God. What else we need in this life?

Best of luck

Thanking people works

Grace

http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2013/02/11/inappropriate-love/

It is very interesting just thanking people for the behavior you prefer actually has been working everywhere. It showed me there is a lack of gratitude in my life.

Just do what Naran says.

Do not ask too many questions….as they are all excuses!

It still heard to believe with my mind but my heart knows it’s true.

Related Posts

Inappropriate Love: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2013/02/11/inappropriate-love/

Harmony and Love waiting @ your doorstep: http://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/24/harmony-and-love-waiting-your-door-step/

Thank you my dear home: http://finddivinehome.wordpress.com/2013/07/16/thank-you-my-dear-home/

Worried About Losing My Friendship

Client

I have a misunderstanding with a friend of mine. I am not sure, next time when I meet her, whether she will properly talk to me or not.

For the last two days, I have this anxiety. So, I released all my anxiety. Now I feel ok.

However, I am worried, when I meet her next time how she will react and how will I handle it.

Naran

1.       Release the anxiety (worry).

2.       You are having a desire to keep the friendship going. Release this desire too.

You are only releasing the thought, emotions and desires. You are not stopping the actions (to be her friend).

Here, instead of the enacting the usual drama we create, we simply observe what is happening in our mind. We release and observe the whole incident as a third person.

Which is convenient – fearing about something or releasing?

In the end, we keep the mind blank – free from worries, anger and fears.

What are the ultimate results we gain due to this technique?

As long as we are working from a noisy mind, there will not be any solution to the problem. 

By releasing all the emotions (and thoughts and desires) one after another, we are taking one step after another towards a litter-free (mind) zone, where we will be free of our emotions and thoughts.

Then the solution for the problem will be found automatically as that part of the mind (litter free zone) knows how to tackle the problem.

In this technique, we do no prayers.

If my house is full of garbage what will I do?

I will simply clear them isn’t it? When I remove all the clutters in the house it becomes good.

In the same way, I release all the clutters from my mind.

Desire is the motivator behind our actions. For me what is motivating me to seek friendship in my friend? There is a desire for approval operating in it. Release it.

When anything comes inside your mind, Just say, “Can I release? Yes. I release this. I let go this…”

Related Posts

Old One Dies New One Blooms: http://reachnaran.com/old-one-dies-new-one-blooms/

The Driver for Relationships, Desires and Talent: http://reachnaran.com/the-driver-for-relationships-desires-and-talent/

Opening the chakras with mantras: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/opening-the-chakras-with-mantras/

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