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How to love parents who are cruel
Grace
My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?
Naran
The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?
While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.
We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.
By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.
In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.
You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?
See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.
When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.
Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.
Grace
Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.
I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).
Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.
Naran
Don’t drag them into your life now.
Unite all the parts.
Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.
Related Posts
There are no accidents only incidents: http://reachnaran.com/there-are-no-accidents-only-incidents/
Relationship with Parents equals Relationship with others: http://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2012/07/30/relationship-with-your-parents-relationship-with-others/
Remove the plasters inside the mind: http://reachchildcare.wordpress.com/2013/10/13/remove-the-plasters-inside-the-mind/
I am the victim! I am the villain!!
R Mohan
Five years back you told me that we invite people who mirror us. Specifically you said the people around me are in PINE state (low self-esteem, guilty), because I am in the same state.
Recently I observed, I create a scare in the people around me (MIMULUS). So I chanted MIMULUS and the opposite states (the opposite person who will create Mimulus) of it – HOLLY and VINE.
Immediately, I felt very happy. My question to you is, how did MIMULUS make me happy?
Naran
The positive aspect of Mimulus is sympathy. That’s why I suggested Mimulus. The Holly and Vine persons will kindle fear in others. By taking Mimulus, you turn the Holly, loving and sympathetic.
In the same way, when you chanted Mimulus, you become sympathetic to the different parts inside yourself namely, the part of HOLLY and the part of VINE. So, in turn you felt relieved and happy.
Several years back, I suggested you to take Mimulus when you were fearful to buy a property. The same fear is still inside you, which is normal.
Just take MIMULUS for the next few days, to be sympathetic, which comes from higher state of love that believes in co-existence.
Related Posts
I am the Hero and the Villain, in the Movie (Life) Directed By Me: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2009/09/28/i-am-the-hero-and-the-villain-in-the-movie-life-directed-by-me/
Chain snatching: http://reachnaran.com/chain-snatching/
Complementing and Opposing Companions of Life: http://reachnaran.com/complementing-and-opposing-companions-of-life/
Things Improve in Life
Client
As describing a flower is never the flower itself, some of the most subtle blessings and experiences lie beyond the reach of expression.
All the good that has come into my life since discovering the various methods offered in this blog are one of those. At a broad level many things have improved.
- I smoothly did my Lasik and took off my glasses after 27 years
- Broke my fear of driving and started moving on the roads
- Joined a fitness regimen
- Finished a novel
- My business is picking up
- Conflicts have reduced
- Most importantly I have stumbled on many more sources of spiritual knowledge and got into a meditation routine
Of course, I have had my share of deep angst through the year, but I have been able to deal with it much better.
Every time I have been in pain, I either read his blog or have confided in Naran and have found much relief.
Almost every life situation has been dealt with in the blog. They are practical and can even be done on behalf of others.
What moves me the most is the non-judgmental generosity, devoid of greed in the responses to those who seek help.
Life is so infinitely complex, so limitless is our sadness and there really is so little we can do. When we really, really need help, how comforting it is to know there is an individual and a great wave of compassion that we can turn to.
There is no way one can come upon spiritual knowledge except by an act of generosity. Therefore with the deepest gratitude not just for myself as a beneficiary but on behalf of all the million views on the blog I will sign off.
Please, please give these methods a chance. Some work, some don’t but keep at it, things will improve. What do we actually have to lose except our disbelief?
Thank you dear Naran!! LOVE THANKS DIVINE!!!
Maha Saraswathi – Rondeletia Orange
RONDELETIA ORANGE-RED DEEP PINK FLOWERS
The Mother’s Message
Rondeletia flowers represent MAHA SARASWATHI’S perfection in works.
Naran
Who can be benefited with these flowers?
For those people who are careless and negligent in their work.
For students who are careless and negligent in their studies.
For those, who are hasty and impatient in whatever they do – For TYPE ‘A’ personalities.
For those who change jobs frequently.
For those do everything incomplete or half-done.
For those who lack concentration.
How to use it?
Keep the picture of flower on HARA and THROAT centers – 3 minutes at each center.
Keep the picture under the pillow.
Meditate on the flower praying, “Let Supreme Divine order of MAHASARASWATHI fill up all my expressions and actions.”
Related Blogs
Solution Finder: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2013/06/12/solution-finder/
Student of Life: http://theflowerangels.wordpress.com/2013/07/22/student-of-life/
Reaching the top once again: http://studyforsuccess.wordpress.com/2013/11/20/reaching-the-top-once-again/