Child Care
Daughter is bed-wetting
Deepthi
My daughter aged 6 years. She is still bed-wetting when she sleeps. She is becoming conscious of that problem now but unable to find a solution.
Naran
Give her daily, two doses of AGRIMONY, MIMULUS and CRAB APPLE. In the night, give her WHITE CHESTNUT and RESCUE REMEDY, before going to sleep.
Chant “OM LAM NAMAHA” placing your hand on her naval.
Explanation
Anything that is suppressed mentally (AGRIMONY) may come out as bed-wetting during night. CRAB APPLE assists AGRIMONY.
There is specific fear of bed-wetting, for which MIMULUS is suggested.
WHITE CHESTNUT for night bed-wetting.
RESCUE REMEDY to have control over bed-wetting.
Can I speak to my child, just a few minutes every day!
A girl from a poor background was driven out of the house by her own husband and her mother-in-law.
It happened soon after she gave birth to a child, because she had dizziness and she was too poor to attend to that.
Instead of getting abused by them, she decided to live alone.
Now the child is five years old. She is not with her husband even now. The child is with him.
They spoiled the child’s thinking by saying negative things about his mother and not allowing him to talk to her.
If she makes a call, either they will say he has gone to play or will tell a lie that child is sleeping.
When she narrated the story to Naran, she cried uncontrollably and asked for help. I advised her to take the Gem remedy Pearl.
She took it and made a phone call to her husband’s house. Her son picked up the phone and addressed her ‘mom’ for the first time. She was speechless.
He asked her to keep calling him and assured her that he will talk to her whenever she makes a call.
Pearl brings out the motherhood in the open. It might be inside, but may not happen.
This happens when a mother and son were picking fights. Though she might feel it inside her but may not be projecting it. It has to be projected outside.
Pearl will help you do that.
My child is attached to my mother-in-law
In this world there are four rules:
- You don’t get what you desire or what you want.
- You get what you don’t desire or what you don’t want.
In between these two rules, how to create what we want?
- To get what you want, accept what you get. When you accept what you get, you like what you get.
- When you like what you get, you get what you want.
A case history
Radha
My in-laws came here last Sunday.
From the day they came here, my three year old daughter Hema wants all her work to be done by my mother in-law. That actually doesn’t bother me.
However, I like to sleep with Hema. It so happened today that she wants to sleep with my MIL, instead of sleeping with me.
I felt really bad that Hema does not understand my feelings and is avoiding me. I felt, ‘Am I not giving enough love to her?”
My MIL feels really happy when Hema ignores me and says that she wants to be with my in-laws.
Now I’m hurt that Hema is totally ignoring me and doesn’t want to sleep with me!
Naran
There is no motive for any child to behave rudely. It is natural that all the children want to be with their grand parents.
Go to my blog and read the story of Mangala on Bach Flower CD: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/04/24/meditation-on-bach-flowers/
Allow the child to be as she is.
The more and more you want your child to be with you, at the same time have a grudge against your mother in law the child will be drawn to her only.
- Chant the switch words, “Together Divine”
- Also, take the Bach Flower Remedies Holly and Chicory. Give it to your MIL also. Put Walnut and Willow in the common water.
- Tap on yourself (all the points) continuously whenever you find time and affirm, “I accept totally what is happening to me. Love Thanks Divine.”
Suffering mentally is optional.
Whenever we accept what is happening, we get a new meaning to our life and at the same time, whatever we wish will happen automatically.
Radha
When my MIL laughs and speaks that my kid is very much attached to her rather than me, then I get the grudge on her.
She has once told our family members, in front of me, that she wants my kid to be attached to her rather than me.
I was hurt with her words. You may think that I’m blaming her. This is the fact and this is how she spoke.
Anyhow let me try chanting the affirmations and let you know.
Naran
What we do normally when we are wounded or hurt?
We may grudge, blame, curse, dislike and become furious.
All these emotions get outside our auric field, get clogged in the atmosphere and influence or affect us because we draw the same energy from the atmosphere.
Moreover constant and consistent undesirable emotions of this type may travel and join similar emotions in the world, paving way for violence, murder etc.
Thus, we contribute indirectly to the violent world outside. Do you want to hold on to these emotions?
Another way is just to accept and ignore wherever possible, the comments made by your MIL.
Affirm to yourself, “Hurting others is her (MIL) nature. Loving and becominglovable (whatever may be the provocation) is my nature”.
If you practise this (very difficult), she will also change.
Changing yourself should be your goal. Take it as a challenge.
Do a lot of forgiving exercise. This will give you more power.
Take the remedies. You will understand.
You never have time for me
A student of Naran in one of his classes remarked the following incident that happened to her daughter.
Her daughter felt pain in her right hand (anger).
When the mother offered her to give some Bach Flower remedies, her daughter replied that the remedies have no effect on her.
The daughter used to tell her mother very often “You never have time for me!”
After listening to Balakumar, she confirmed “Probably now I understand, what her body is saying, that the mother doesn’t have time for the daughter and doesn’t take care of her.”
Remedies that will work here are CHICORY and WILLOW.
Tapping (EFT) can change the child and the parent(s) effectively.
Both the techniques are required.
If the parent can take care of the child, then no other healing is required.
Doing things in time
Vijayalakshmi Seshadri
My daughter is studying 6th.
She has thyroid for the past 1year. She has to travel one and half hrs to school. She gets tired, and often gets health problems.
She is very lazy in doing things also. If the bus comes by 7.30 AM, she goes to toilet only at 7 o’clock. She becomes dull in studies also.
Pls help her in your way.
Naran
During morning hours, chant “HALFWAY DIVINE”continuously. She will start doing things in time.
Explanation
The switch words “HALFWAY DIVINE” is not to end laziness. It is for the person who becomes tensed, and thinks that “there is no time”.
Child is naughty
Concerned Mother
I’ve a son and daughter. Son is 12 years old. Very intelligent!
But, now he is becoming forgetful, naughty and lost always in thoughts. If he concentrates he can finish studies very quickly. But he is not attentive.
He is getting scolding from teachers and even us.
All the time we have to shout at him, abuse him. We don’t feel happy doing all this. I know he is becominga teenager.
Naran
Instead of getting angry at an adolescent child, understand that the child needs to be helped.
Help him with Bach flower remedies AGRIMONY, WILLOW, CHESTNUT BUD, CLEMATIS and CRAB APPLE and gem remedies CORAL and YELLOW SAPPHIRE.
You have to give them orally.
Chant“…..(NAME OF THE CHILD) TOGETHER HOLD DIVINE” for the sake of the child.
Take him to any temple. Compel and take him.
Explanation
The teenagers will hide so many from their parents, always suppressing their true emotions either for the sake of parents or elders: Agrimony
Be responsible: Willow
To concentrate and not to avoid studies: Chestnut Bud
For focusing: Clematis
Mental cleanser: Crab Apple
To behave himself: Coral
To behave well: Yellow Sapphire
He is very aggressive
Poonam
My nephew (19 yrs old) is very aggressive. He does not take interest in studies or any work.
Beats his younger brother whenever he is angry, cannot control his anger. He is not responsible at all. Other family members are really very disturbed with all this.
I live abroad. Can I help them by chanting some mantra from a distance?
Naran
A VINE child will not obey. He gets angry and become physically violent.
For example, a parent say, “My son’s behavior is becoming aggressive. Whatever he wants we have to get him. Otherwise we cannot tolerate his fury. If we refuse to buy anything he starts pulling the clothes tearing his books and beats his younger brother”.
Give him CHICORY, CHERRY PLUM and VINE – each three doses, daily for one month.
The reason for giving remedies: Chicory for demanding, Cherry Plum for uncontrolled behavior and Vine for beating the younger brother.
Buy Lum symbol from the centre
See picture and chant, “OM LUM NAMAHA”
Placing the picture on the table in front of a distracted child will help the child concentrate. The square shape in the picture will give one-pointed concentration. It is useful for grounding. Will encourage wayward teenagers gain responsibility and return home.
Placing a glass of water on the picture for 30 minutes and then giving it to the child will overcome temper tantrums.
It is useful for controlling aggressive behaviour, especially for Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder and children who are impatient and irritable in nature.
The Mother’s Flower Red Balsam
If anybody is unfair, aggressive, ill-tempered or spiteful, paste this picture on the name of the person (write the name in a piece of paper and paste the picture over it). Or visualize the flower in their heart centre.
Thus, you can project the flowers on others the moment you think about them as they represent divine in this world.