Forgiveness How and Why
Dead can be unhappy too
Sashi
I have been reading through the issues for right knee. I have severe right knee pain due to osteoarthritis.
I am on homeopathic medicines. I also limp because of this. I can’t walk for long. Then both legs are painful.
Reading through your blog, I found that right knee is for issues of father. But as far as I know, I did not have issues with him. He passed away 23 yrs before. So what do I do?
Is there any way to get rid of my pain and limp?
I am 47 yrs old. I have been having this problem for nearly 12 yrs. I also try to do Reiki for the pain. Still it is difficult.
But, I do have issues with my mom, though I don’t know why. She stays with me and I seem to get angry with her for everything.
I am not generally a person who gets angry soon or bear grudges and keep my anger for long, but somehow I seem to speak a bit loudly to her.
I feel guilty after that. But in spite of thinking I shouldn’t automatically, I still do it. I have started saying, “I forgive you, please forgive me and release me”.
Naran
The issue here is your father is not happy over your anger against your mother.Don’t ask how can be a dead person unhappy over my doing.
- Do the forgiving exercise to your father as well as mother.
- Cut two potatoes into slices with the skin, apply them over the knee and tie them with the cloth. Leave it for a minimum of 6 hours and then take them out. This will remove the pain.
- Liver is connected with all the joints. For any problem in the joints you have to forgive and thank.
- Thank profusely from the heart all the events in your life.
- Forgive all with whom you have anger.
If anger is there, love cannot be present. If gratitude is not there, joy cannot be there in life.
- Chant “BOW CONCEDE TOGETHER DIVINE” also.
- Affirm “I release that part me which is angry with my mother. I align with that part of me which loves my mother.”
- Write the affirmation daily for 21 times.
Unfinished Carpentry Work
Naran S Balakumar
A case history to explain use of New I AM SORRY Mantra and healing with hands technique
How do you put the ‘I AM SORRY’ method into practice?
For one of my clients, carpentry work was happening in his house. Suddenly, the carpenter didn’t turn up to complete the work.
I told my client, “Looking at the pending work, put your feelings in your left hand”.
How do you put your feelings?
You can just say, ‘I am putting my feelings on my left palm’. They will be placed there.
I told my client, “Put every feeling about the carpentry work here. The work is pending and so you are angry about the carpenter and you feel cheated too. Put those feelings on the left palm’.
“Now draw the infinity symbol on the left palm”.
You keep the hands facing each other in front of you. Let the right hand be slightly above the position of the left hand. Slowly, bring the hands together.
Feel the energy in the space between the hands. You might also feel some resistance, which is the inward resistance you have (to solve the problem).
While slowly bringing the hands together chant “I am sorry Please forgive me Love Thanks Divine Light Change”.
You have to bring it very slowly,= and as slowly as possible. Continue to chant the mantra until both the hands are together. The healing method is over.
When an event takes place, we immediately attribute it to the opposite person. We may not know what exactly happened.
There might be a genuine reason for the person to behave in a certain way. We forget to consider that.
After about 3 or 4 days of doing the healing, he decided to find another carpenter, forgoing the amount paid to the other carpenter.
The original carpenter appeared on the scene. He gave the reason for his disappearance. He had to collect some money from the government, which took him some time.
After getting the money, he had come back and restarted the work.
What is the Basis of Forgiveness?
Forgiveness discussion Chennai 2016
Naran S Balakumar
The whole forgiveness concept is based on Bakthi Yoga of Bhagavat Gita, Chapter 12. There are important verses 13 and 14 in it.
Please note that wherever Krishna addresses Arjuna (in Bhagavat Gita), it is addressed to the whole humanity.
There he says (according to my translation), “Arjuna! Understand who is loved by me. He who doesn’t hate anyone; he who is always friendly and compassionate; he who is not possessive; he who is stable in pleasure and pain; he who is forgiving; he firmly aspires for me in his heart and mind (meaning you should aspire only for the divine in the world). He is the person much loved by me”.
How to be that person? How to change ourselves like that? Or how do we at least take the first step towards that goal?
Clear your memory from the past using forgiveness method
There are various methods we are going to discuss.
Why forgiveness is important?
Forgiving is an easy method to release our thought. When you say you are forgiving means, it means you are releasing your thought.
There is an important point to note here. It clears the memory. All our problems are because of our memory only.
For example, we bring in our conversation ‘Yesterday you talked to me like that, isn’t it’, bringing from our memory.
We always do that and we are proud about such memory power also.
Why problems happen in relationships?
Why forgiveness is important in our lives – Discussion on Forgiveness, Chennai 2016
Naran S Balakumar
Forgiveness can be used not only for (healing) relationships, but also for getting money, to be healthy, pay back our debts, to heal your organs and can be used for anything in life.
Mainly, 90% of our problems in life are only because of our relationships.
In every relationship, you always want something. Think about any relationship with anybody and find out what you want from them.
Unless there is a requirement, you will not keep the relationship. You have to get something from somebody.
There is always a want. Without wanting anything from anybody, we will not be their friend.
That’s why Forgiveness is very important because it dissolves your wanting.
In any relationship, want love, trust or happiness and also want to be loved. If the relationship doesn’t provide them then we will go on complaining about it.
However, relationship is not about wanting. It is about giving.
Why problems happens in a relationship
Our first level of communications is our thoughts. All our thoughts are communicated directly to the other person. Whatever we think goes and reaches the other person.
Always remember to think good thoughts because they are like a perfume – a fragrance. The fragrance of your mind fills up your aura.
According to the fragrance of your thoughts, you are attracting people and maintaining them.
The problem is not between two persons. The problem is how we think about the other person.
People and situations stimulate your thoughts. Through these thoughts you will be known – whether you are an angry person or so and so.
Further Explanation on New ‘I AM SORRY’ Mantra
“I am sorry Please forgive me Love Thanks Divine Light Change”
Naran S Balakumar
Read the first part here: http://www.reachnaran.com/meaning-of-the-new-i-am-sorry-mantra-forgiveness-discussion-chennai-2016/
There is no other alternative for us other than forgiving.
Why does ‘Divine Light Change’ is required?
This means forgiveness has to clear so many things.
First, it has to change you. Then only the other person will change. That’s why sometimes healing takes longer time.
You may be ready to change. But, you cannot change yourself. The divine light is required by you to change. Why?
A person who is already an ignorant cannot solve his ignorance. The light has to come from somewhere. The moment you call light, it will come.
Why THANKS is important
Say “Love Thanks Divine Light Change” daily. Why?
Gratitude is the finishing touch of forgiving. It is incomplete without gratitude – without Thanks.
When the light comes to you, you need to thank it.
Thus, the statement has become “I am sorry Please forgive me Love Thanks Divine Light Change”.
How to live your life happily?
If you want to live your life happily then you need to redefine the goal of your life.
How do we redefine our goal of life? We have to build a strong relationship with the goal inside.
How will I get closer to the truth? Build up good thoughts. Release any thought that takes you away from the soul or inner mind.
Forgiving is the one step, which clears up all thoughts, and bringing you closer to the divine. Our gratitude in life will open up the closed doors, by letting in the grace of the divine.
Apart from Forgiveness and Gratitude, there is no goal in life.
When you want love or affection from anybody just talk to god and forget yourself. Try to get love from god.
Meaning of the New ‘I AM SORRY’ Mantra – Forgiveness Discussion, Chennai 2016
Naran S Balakumar
The general method of forgiving is by chanting, “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME LOVE THANKS DIVINE LIGHT CHANGE”.
Previously, I suggested until the word DIVINE. Now, I have added two more words – LIGHT and CHANGE.
The meaning of the mantra is – ‘I AM SORRY. I have not understood the Divine Will. Divine therefore PLEASE FORGIVE ME. I THANK you DIVINE for activating the CHANGE within me. Let LIGHT and LOVE fill me up, to CHANGE me’.
The importance of ‘Divine Light Change’
The expression ‘DIVINE LIGHT CHANGE’ is an important addition to the ‘I am sorry’ mantra. It gives a new dimension to healing.
Change is a switch word.
The meaning of that is: ‘I have deviated from the center (original plan). Please change me and re-align me with the center’.
It’s an indirect command to the ego mind to change. When you say ‘divine light change’, it’s a command to the ego mind ‘You be ready to change’.
It also means that your soul is inducing you to change.
Thus it means – you are accepting to change in the grace of light, which dissolves ignorance, darkness or dark-based ego (mind).
Remove Connection between the Healer and the Healee
Naran S Balakumar
A girl got married. It was arranged by her parents.
In her husband’s house, she went through lot of suffering. Her husband wasn’t in good talking terms with her either.
Mother used to consult me and chant remedies for the sake of her kid.
Every day she called me without fail. When the phone rings, I used to wonder and worried that required healing hasn’t happened yet.
When we are connected with the problem, the healing doesn’t happen. So I had to be released from the problem to make it happen.
So I affirmed, “I Balakumar (healer) forgive you Lakshmi (healee). You forgive me and release me”.
Within one day the problem got resolved as the disconnection has happened.
The “forgiveness’ mantra will remove the connection between us and the healee. Immediately healing will happen to the healee.
Forgiveness Pact
Every time we forgive someone,
We talk the language of God
We activate our own divine part.
It also helps others to see us in a new light.
In addition,
If there is no forgiveness, then there is no understanding.
If there is no understanding, then there is no healing.
If there is no healing, then you will remain incomplete forever.
Purpose of forgiving
Naran S Balakumar
We have to categorically differentiate soul from mind.
When we want to take revenge, it’s happening from the mind, not from the soul – which is only observing. The soul is beyond all these unwanted emotions.
Conscious mind will always make you think that there is a need for revenge and anger.
Purpose of mantra is to correct the conscious mind. We do that help of the forgiving exercise.
It’s an art which makes the other person think differently about you. It cuts our thinking pattern. We think we need to react to anger, while our true nature is to love and forgive.
A reason to forgive those causing disharmony
Client
Dear Naran,
When I asked you healing words for harmony you gave the following to chant “BOW CONCEDE FORGIVE” and “OPEN ALIGN WITH DIVINE LOVE”.
Can you explain the meaning? Why should I bow and forgive when the other person causes the disharmony?
Naran S Balakumar
Every time you forgive, you dissolve one barrier (condition), which the ego placed on your ability to love.
Shed your ego (BOW CONCEDE), which is restricting your love.
And FORGIVE. Every time you forgive, your love energy is activated.
“OPEN ALIGN WITH DIVINE LOVE” phrase activates your love energy and your ability to give ‘love without condition’ is enhanced.