Forgiveness How and Why

Malini

I had attended your lecture held at Raj Bhavan and bought a book written by you on forgiveness.

I have been reading it again and again since 2 days and my daughter also reads it.  I find a lot of changes since 2 days after reading this particular book.

My daughter is having her half-yearly (11th std.) exams. She always watches TV and sits before computer to chat with her friends on Facebook and does not study for exams.

Just one day she read this “Forgiveness” book and then started studying seriously for her exams.  She got up at 4 am today.  What a surprise!!  I thanked this book and you as my guru.

Today my heart chakra started vibrating fast and I had a feeling of happiness in my heart chakra.

I still keep this forgiveness book in my hand bag.  I read it in train on way to my home (though I had read many times).  It is really amazing.

I do not want to experiment it but I feel a good energy is coming from this particular book and making good to me and as well as to my daughter.

 Each and every product taken from you has a life by itself!!!

Thank you

Regards

PS:

She refers to the book written by Naran S. Balakumar, “Forgiveness – why and how”.

Anger Eraser Part III

Please refer this link to read the previous article in the series – “Remove My Angry Instinct – Anger Eraser Part II”: http://wp.me/ptUKY-6D

Is there is an easy way to forgive?

One day, when I was speaking with Naran, he told me that he has created a CD for forgiveness.

This happened six months after I had asked him whether there was any mantra for forgiveness.

He did not give an immediate answer back then probably, because there are several mantras that can heal our anger, in their own way. There is no single mantra for forgiveness that was tailor-made for all.

Each of emotion vibrates in a certain frequency

He explained briefly that our brain vibrates in a certain frequency when we are angry about somebody. Likewise when we forgive somebody it vibrates in a certain other frequency.

Thus, each emotion vibrates with certain frequency.

Thanks to research findings of a Japanese Scientist, Naran mentioned that he had found the frequencies of some of the Bach Flower Remedies like WILLOW and WALNUT.

Like our emotions, the flowers too vibrate in a certain frequencies of their own. With the help of the Radionics, he was able to figure out those frequencies, which bring forgiveness in the heart and enables a person to get over his anger and stop blaming.

Based on this finding, he added that he had created a CD that will help us to forgive others.

The CD for Forgiveness

The reason he has created a CD because many find it difficult to forgive others, no matter what. So, he was trying to find an easy way out to help people to forgive others easily and effortlessly.

He asked me to try the CD first and share the results with him.

Here, I wanted to share something about Naran. He is a person who is not blunt. He subtly points things to you.

Let us say he wants to tell me that I am lazy and I am not using my potential fully, he will say so and so is lazy, indirectly giving his opinion about me.

So I guessed he had thought that I am the ideal guy to try to find the effects of the Forgiveness CD J

Listened to the CD (over head phone)

As a true lazy person, why would I say no to find an easy method to heal my unforgiving attitude?

The CD runs for 30 minutes.  I had been listening to it for the last one month, once a day.

Now, I have started to listen to it twice a day for deeper healing.

I found the CD beneficial is an understatement. Let me share my experiences in the best way I can.

I tried when I wasn’t angry

The whole day will be more or less with one or two angry episodes – I mean short temper or cursing/blaming somebody and may be none at all.

In a typical day, I used to have at least 10 episodes of anger.

I tried when I was angry

Within a few minutes, my anger gets erased from the brain, which looks clean with no trace of anger in it.

The day I didn’t listen to the CD

I will go back to my normal ways – though my anger has come down a lot. However, during those days I was not comfortable with my own anger. I desperately wanted to soon come out of that.

Moral of the story

The one major behavior anybody who knows me from childhood attributes to me is that I will get angry very easily. I am not denying that as it is true.

And I think listening to the CD is a boon to me is as truthful as that.

Give it a shot and you will not be angry about me that I have suggested something wrong to you.

Good Luck!!!

Anger Eraser Part II

Please refer this link to read the first article in the series – “Resentment Created an Accident – Anger Eraser Part I”: http://wp.me/ptUDl-6n

Anger about others will hurt us

I had been taking the Bach Flower Remedy WILLOW and sometimes PINE too.

Why Pine? The anger that we have about those outside us, one day will turn inside. This can create accidents – major or minor, and pains – in the form of stomach pain or head ache. Pain means Pine.

Just to give you an example. All of us would have gone through the episode of hurting our own fingers or toes, when we are angry about somebody at office or home.

Mantra for forgiveness

I did forgiveness exercise too (“I Ram forgive you Suresh. Please forgive me and release me’). That did help me to remove the anger whenever I get.

One day I asked Naran, if he could give me a mantra to forgive easily and effortlessly. He said he will think and get back to me.

Meanwhile, I was chanting mantras of Naran and one day I found that the Sreeram mantra helped me to erase anger or deep resentment.

I would say that this mantra removes our angry instinct.

When I shared this with Naran, he said, this mantra does helps us a lot, as it removes our animal instincts.

Why we need to remove animal instincts?

Of course Darwin said that our ancestors are apes. Thus, we carry their instincts with them. It means that their DNA is still inside us and influencing us in some way.

The only way we could erase this instinct from us is the Sree Ram mantra, which goes like this, “SREERAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM”.

Please refer this link to read about the last article in the series – “Please help me to forgive”: http://wp.me/p12byb-2p

“Arise Awake and Stop Not Till theGoal is Reached” – Swami Vivekananda

Who is to be blamed if there is no harmony within the family?

In any situation, when one finds oneself opposed, confronted, misunderstood, blamed or being overthrown,  one either feels angry or feels  depressed  or worried.

What is to be tackled here – your mind or him?

Everybody wants to change the other person. What is the hidden situation here?

If you want the other person to change, should you not think about changing yourself?

Without ourselves changing, we cannot change others.

If there is disharmony then both are responsible for that and both have to change. This is simple logic.

How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life?

1. Ask a simple question to yourself. What do I want?
2. What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want?
3. What behavior of mine or my action will take me – move,towards this goal?
4. On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?

If you are 100% sure that your anger or resentment or longing for love, care, affection can take you to harmony or the desired goal, you can have anything.

But once you decide (Itcha Sakthi) that only my endurance or forgiveness can achieve my goal then take the appropriate action (Kriya Sakthi) that is conducive to the goal of harmony, love and understanding.

In other words, your thought, your expression, and your behavior should be conducive towards your goal.

If you think that forgiveness, love and gratitude can achieve this then bring them in your thoughts, expressions and behavior.

The disadvantages of being in a state of victim

The only thing that may interfere in your progress is your ego.

A state of mind which cannot achieve what is desired is a state of victim.  Having known that this victim state cannot achieve, why do you hang on to it?

• Not knowing that my state of mind prevents me from achieving my aim is the first blunder.
• Having known that a particular state of mind – victim mentality, cannot achieve what you want and doing nothing about it is the second blunder.

Once you come to know that forgiveness alone, endurance alone, kindness and gratitude alone, can achieve what you want, then go all out for that, with full of courage and moral will.

This is what I meant when I said “BRING IN INTERNAL CHANGE” (in the introduction to Forgiveness CD).

We may fail in the course of time. But don’t be upset over failure. Failure is just a reminder to correct our attitude and move forward.