Love and Harmony
Letting go of Anger! Letting in Harmony!
My husband keeps fighting with me, says a lady.
Our normal reaction is to express our anger, which we think is natural and the right thing to do. Anger will produce only anger. How to break this cycle?
Do SAFE and SECURE Mudra (on both hands, touch little and ring fingers with thumb), also called as PRAN Mudra. Our anger will come down along with the other person’s anger.
With this Mudra, chant the names of the Bach flowers BEECH, WALNUT, WILLOW, AGRIMONY, CHICORY, and CHERRY PLUM. Harmony will prevail.
Alternatively, along with this Mudra, chant the Switch Words, “BOW CONCEDE TOGETHER DIVINE”.
When you want to avoid conflict, or when you want to do the forgiveness exercise, visualize the color GREEN. Think about the colour green and visualize any greenery before going to the place where you expect conflict.
When and How to do Acceptance Mudra?
How to do this Mudra?
The right hand thumb touches index and middle finger, while the left hand thumb touches middle finger and ring finger.
This is also called PUSHAN Mudra.
- When there is a conflict and we wants to remain peaceful, we can do this Mudra and chant “I am sorry, please forgive me, Love Thanks Divine”.
- When we want to stop criticizing others or when we want to have tolerance, we can be in the Acceptance Mudra and chant- “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love Thanks Divine”.
- When we want to shed our ego and pride, we can be in the Acceptance Mudra and go on affirming within, “I am sorry. Please forgive me. Love! Thanks! Divine!”
Have a Ball (of Love)
Referring the post: http://marriagemantri.wordpress.com/2013/04/03/husband-says-he-will-never-come-back/
Grace
Why do things such as these happen? Is it an exercise expelling some internal discord?
Naran
We always want harmony love and peace.
But we don’t know how to get when we are denied or when are rejected.
Life simply follows physical law.
If you throw a ball on the wall, it rebounds and comes back to you with the same force.
Our thoughts and emotions are like balls thrown at the opposite person.
When we refuse to forgive, we will not be forgiven.
Send a forgiving note you will get back the same.
Send ball of love, which will be returned to you as the ball of love.
Do and do, till we get the same love back.
Sweets are good for family health
Client
My husband yells at our son and me and blames my son or me for making his life miserable. My son feels hurt and weeping, because he loves his father very much.
Today, my husband yelled at me because I requested him to help my son with his studies and said he would walk out of the house. He threatens me and my son like this, whenever he feels stressed.
Please suggest some switch words or remedies to help us all out of this mindset without creating any lasting damage to my son and to the relationship.
Naran
Chant “CHOCOLATE” to change misplaced and uncontrollable anger.
The switch word Chocolate can be helpful in defusing and removing unexpressed feelings also. It helps us to focus on the positive side in life.
Write “CHOCOLATE” in a paper and keep it under the pillow of both father and son.
Client
Whenever possible, we chanted chocolate as a family.
I also put it under the pillow of father and son.
They are working together in Math and other things and taking care of each other.
How to maintain your level of intimacy
Naran S Balakumar
When can you get what you want in a relationship?
All of us enter into any relationship to expecting somethingin the lines of – “I want someone so that I feel good; I want to be loved and taken care of”.
In any relationship when you expect, you will be disappointed.
When one is ready to give without expectation, he can get. There will not be any dejection.
How a destructive relationship starts getting building up?
When I do not want any destructive relationship or when I want harmony and peace in a relationship, then I should stop resisting it first.
Instead, when the spouse says or does anything you disagree or you don’t like, you start resisting inwardly.
Then like starts yielding to dislike.
However, this is not expressed but suppressed. This continues until it becomes resentment.
How you destroy the foundation of love?
You become angry.
Anger separates you from the other person and a barrier is formed.
Intimacy is ended, and leads to rejection.
You find ways to blame or criticize the partner wanting to prove that he/she is wrong.
Verbally you attack.
Everything the other person doesseem to be wrong and the physical separation begins.
Without knowing, that your own blaming causes rejection – you feel rejected.
Your relationship deteriorates further by either suspicion or withdrawal.
Resolving these destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back-biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Each day is a new day. Start as if it is a new relationship.
Rekindle Relationships
Bubble
I liked this guy and suddenly things got really serious in us that we planned everything together. But after going out for two years he just totally shut me off.
Due to lot of arguments he totally broke all the contacts and relationship with me. Even lot of apologies didn’t helped and everything ended in very bad way.
It’s been year that we never contacted each other. Till today I am so hurt, and still some part of me want him back.
I tried to forget and move on with my life but thought of him not being a part of me is killing me. I don’t want to contact him because all the things he said to me.
I still have feeling for him and want rekindle the broken relationship so all the mistakes I did can repair and be together with each other.
I pray so he can make contact with me or in any way the broken communication opens so we can clear our negativity and start a stronger and better relationship than before.
Instead of focusing on my life, he’s in my brain all the time. I don’t know how to let go of it or how to fix this.
Naran
You have to let go this relationship and be peaceful.
Chant “WHITE CHESTNUT, WALNUT, CRAB APPLE, CHICORY” 100 times over a glass of water and drink this water. Do this two times daily.
In the night, keep you index finger at the base of the thumb and let the thumb touch the tips of little and ringer fingers.
Be in this Mudra (both hands) chanting “TOGETHER OPEN DIVINE LOVE, BEAUTY, GRACE” and sleep.
Love, Affection and Harmony
Kunzite
It is light pink in color. For menopause problems Kunzite is very useful. It will teach a person love and affection.
Family harmony
Kunzite is very helpful in restoring the harmony in the family.
The rose quartz removes the hurt feelings in the house. Because of the hurt one becomes terribly angry and in rage. For that situation of anger and rage Kunzite is very useful.
It is also very effective for family disputes.
Pink Tourmaline
It teaches intimate love.
Green Sapphire
Green Sapphire also promotes fidelity.
Especially it works well in the relationship because in a relationship only fidelity is important. It is also good in partnership driven business.
If one wants his workers to be loyal with him he should take Green Sapphire.
Nine Gems
For autistic children Nine Gems can be given as a background remedy. The heart is longing for love. Even though the love is there, they cannot feel it and they behave in an uncontrolled manner.
For such persons give Blue Sapphire for restriction of the behaviour and after two hours give Nine Gems.
Fever does not come down means then you can give Nine Gems.
Ruby
Ruby must be used very carefully. In a family Ruby should not come because the key word is – break. Ruby should not be worn in the body permanently. Once in a while if you wear it is ok.
Shed the ego
Sunita
Is there is any mantra by which we can reunite two people by calming down their anger?
My sis-in-law and my father are having a terrible problem. They don’t want to listen about each other. Due to that the whole family is unable to speak to them. But I want to solve this problem.
On the contrary I don’t say both of them are ready to leave their ego because they don’t like to listen to anyone to shed their anger and ego for each of them.
So pls give me some mantra so that I can chant on behalf of both of them and reunite them miraculously.
Naran
Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”
It feels like hell
JayantSing
I live with my girlfriend. She has a very jealous nature and a very bad temper. She argues over tiny things, making it a big deal. I keep quite thinking to cool it down so as to not to aggravate the situation.
But, then she doesn’t talks to me for 4 days. Then she acts as if nothing happened and blames me for the entire thing.
When we are in good terms it feels like heaven. I would really appreciate if we can avoid this and get some help from you.
Naran
Chant “CHICORY, HOLLY, TOGETHER DIVINE”
Explanation
Temper tantrums: “She argues over tiny things”; emotional blackmailing: she doesn’t talk to me for 4 days: CHICORY
For over-sensitivity and jealousy: HOLLY
For harmony: TOGETHER DIVINE
Confrontation no more
Naran
What is specialty of Pran Mudra in addition to savings?
Every family will have arguments and conflicts. If it doesn’t happen then it is not a family. All of us are wearing a mask and have come here. Some might have fought with their husbands to come to this class.
This Pran Mudra says, “Don’t enter into any argument”.
When the opposite person resist or gets angry with you, be in this Mudra. For one full day, be in that Mudra. Don’t react to that person’s provocation but just smile at him.
Automatically, the person will physically abandon himself because he doesn’t know how to react to your smiling face. Or he will reduce his anger.
This is the best way to handle the other man’s anger, because handling other man’s anger is always interesting to us.