Love and Harmony
Establish harmony in every aspect of life
Naran S Balakumar
From the introduction of Inner Smile CD:
“We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends.
“A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs.
“A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life”.
How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life?
Ask a simple question to yourself.
What do I want?
What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want.
What behavior of mine or my action will take me move towards this goal?
On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?
Resolving destructive tendencies
If relationship is to be mended then you need to take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
When you want a harmonious atmosphere
Naran S Balakumar
WITH means is to be compatible with the opposite or concerned person.
Chant the switch words, “TOGETHER DIVINE WITH … (Name of the person)” when you want the other person to agree with you.
When you want a harmonious atmosphere chant “CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH”.
If you chant this switch word combination, the atmosphere will change beautifully.
Don’t bother about the names of the persons who need harmony. Just chant “CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH”. Still it works beautifully.
At the subconscious level of the mind there is no ‘you’ and ‘me’. Everything is one. At the subconscious level there is no differentiation, all are one.
The difference is because of the body, and of the mind’s association with the body. That’s why we see the difference between each other.
My husband never talks to me
Sasi
My husband never talks to me lot but talks to other girls and women.
When we go to function he shares all his works to other women which he has not told me. If I call him to any place he says no time, but spend time for his momand his sisters.
I want my husband to respect me and share only to me.
Naran
Do you respect your husband?
Sasi
Yes I respect him, help him a lot and I tell all the things to him before he asks or others tell him.
But many a times I have come to know about him from others – business or family matters. Only if I ask him he will say. I feel hurt at that time.
He wants me to invite his brother and sis-in-law, but argues with me and starts a fight. But never ask them a word if they talk false of me.
Naran
Do the forgiving exercise.
Write “TOGETHER DIVINE” daily 100 times and 11 times with the left hand (if you are a right-hander)
Go away from my life
Savi
As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE”and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.
You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.
So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.
But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “Idon’t need you, go away from my life”.
Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.
He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though Ihave done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.
He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.
I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.
He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.
I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).
Naran
It is quite surprising when you say you love him.
But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).
If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?
First give (it to him).
Give profusely from the heart.
Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.
You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.
If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.
What should I do to get harmony?
Go all out and give love.
What shouldI not do to get harmony?
Stop your blaming tendencies.
Stop the feeling that you are hurt.
It is important for you to be in love than to be right.
Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.
Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.
Change your heart first to change his heart.
Harmony Packed for Marriage
Roopa
My husband keeps complains that in this world, “Everyone hates me. I have no good friends, relatives. Because everyone tries to take advantage of me, I keep away from my relatives and friends”.
Also, my husband does not like me inviting anyone on the weekends, meet anyone outside and visit any of my relatives or friends house.
He insults me and abuses me in front of others.
Knowing this some of my friends does not want to visit my house as they cannot take what my husband does to me. Literally, I have no one visiting my new house.
I do not know what to do. Can you suggest something?
Naran
Chant “BEECH, WILLOW, HOLLY, AGRIMONY, CHERRY PLUM”
Explanation
Beech, Willow, Holly, Agrimony, and Cherry Plum are Bach Flower Remedies. This is one of the combinations – HARMONY PACK, I suggest for finding harmony within one’s family.
Fault-finding: BEECH
Blaming others for one’s problems: WILLOW
Intense rage and suspicions’ about some members in the family: HOLLY
Seeking peace: AGRIMONY
Not to loose control: CHERRY PLUM
Love lost in marriage
AR
It’s been only a few months I’ve been married but now my husband has started neglecting me.
I do not feel as close as before. The little affectionate things and feelings have started disappearing from our couple life… please help!!!
Naran
- Chant “CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILLOW, BEECH, WALNUT, AQUAMARINE” for 100 times.
- Write the above names in a piece of paper and keep it under your pillow.
Explanation
CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILLOW, BEECH and WALNUT are Bach Flower Remedies.
Love lost: CHICORY and GENTIAN
Release blame, and resentment: WILLOW, BEECH and improve rapport: WALNUT
Develop affection: AQUAMARINE (gem remedy)
My husband drives me nuts
Naran S Balakumar
It was 10 pm when I received a call from Shanthi.
She was desperate, worn down and very angry about her husband. Just then she had a big fight with him. In a fit of anger he pushed her out from their house and locked himself from inside.
Nowhere to go, feeling desolate and angry, she called me.
To bring her anger down, I asked her to chant, “OM HREEM TAHA” (this mantra will reduce anger)
In addition, I asked her to chant the mantra, “GURU GUGAN KODI KODI LAVANYAM”.
She chanted both the mantras and went back home.
She was surprised to found the house door open, with lights on and her husband waiting for her.
Before Shanthi spoke a word her husband apologised to her for his rude behaviour. In addition, he served her dinner.
The purpose of the Guru Gugan mantra is to increase our self-esteem and self-love. Shanthi required it as she found it difficult to digest her husband’s rude behaviour.
My Husband is a Great Fault-Finder
Mrs. P
I have the following problems in my life:
- Recently got married and my husband don’t trust me. He suspects me for everything
- He keeps remembering the past mistakes and scolds and keeps on telling that always and fights with me
- If we go out he feels that I look at other guys and not at him and because of this he doesn’t come out with me anywhere. Now because of all these, he has started making new friends who are girls and started talking to them.
- Earlier he used to share everything with me. Now he doesn’t even talk to me properly.
- For everything he misunderstands.
- He doesn’t allow me to talk to my earlier friend and some of my cousins who are guys
- He does even allow me to wear modern dresses
Can you please resolve this problem and somehow save my marriage and get me my love back?
Can you please make him understand me, share with me everything and be with me always?
Can you please make him somehow to forget the past things, lead a new life with me and be jovial with me? Please bring back the attachment within him.
Along with the remedies can you also give me some Bach flower names which I can chant daily and resolve this.
Naran
Take the flower remedies WILLOW, HOLLY, VINE and ROCK WATER as a combination.
Buy these remedies in any homeopathy shop. Mix 5 pills of each in water. Sip the water 6 to 7 times in a day.
Chant the mantras “OM HUM NAMAHA, OM YUM NAMAHA, OM RUM NAMAHA, OM VUM NAMAHA, OM LUM NAMAHA” for 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes in the evening.
Keep CHIMPANZEE picture with you.
Establish harmony in your mind
Naran S Balakumar
How does Sree Ram Jaya Ram Mantra works on relationships?
Chant “SREE RAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM”
This mantra can prevent divorce.
It can mend the relationship between husband and wife by bringing harmony inside both of them. This is true for any type of relationships. Therefore, we should chant this mantra wherever we need harmony.
However, Harmony Pack – a combination of Bach flowers remedies, available in the center is there to take care of harmony in our family, life and work.
The mantra can establish harmony. There are ways to receive oxygen. Chanting the Sree Ram Jaya Ram Mantra is one way.
Once all cells get the necessary oxygen, the cells become harmonious. The body then becomes harmonious and thereafter mind becomes harmonious too.
Mind and body are connected. When our minds are affected our body is affected too and vice versa. Thus the mantra could establish harmony in our minds.