Rule Your Mind
The need for Letting GO
STOP the MIND’s Influence on YOU Part II
Read the first part of the article here:http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/
Letting go the thoughts
How can we do it that?
How thoughts can be let off?
There will be resistance inside the mind to do so, as it does not want us to move forward spiritually in life.
Letting go seen inside our body
Is this letting go is something new that we have never seen?
If you watch your body, it is letting go. However, mind does not do that.
Let say you like eating Jangri (Indian sweet).
Can you keep it in the mouth for long? It has to be released to the stomach. After digestion, if the stomach does not release it, then you have to go to hospital. Nature of the mouth is to let go.
Stomach has to let go to intestines. If intestines refuse to let go, imagine what will happen to us. Here cooperation among body organs is a must.
Jangri takes different forms in the end, losing its original form after digestion, absorption and elimination operations of the digestive tract.
Skin let go by sweating. Lungs exhales carbon dioxide.If heart stops circulating blood one-tenth of a second, then you will die. It does letting in and letting out blood.
Letting go action in nature
Morning has to go for noon to come and afternoon goes for evening to come. Letting go happens in a circular manner. Similarly, sun goes, and Moon comes.
Letting go is the process of nature. However, for mind it’s not possible. It does opposite of it, by holding on to things.
Holding on is the nature of the mind
Mind is the enemy to Body and Soul.
When you hold on to a thought, it means there is stagnation. Then you will have less of Prana (energy). Mind is always stagnated.
Letting GO in Action
STOP the MIND’s Influence on YOU Part III
Read part I in the series: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/
And Part II: “The need for Letting GO” – http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/02/07/the-need-for-letting-go/
How to bring the mind to do letting go?
Let us say, you are angry. Then affirm, “I am not the mind. I feel angry.”
Here you have changed “I am angry”to “I feel angry”.
If you are happy then affirm, “I feel happy”, and so on.
Prepare a checklist of emotions
List the emotionsyou are feeling currently.
Irrespective of whether they are positive or negative, release them.
Let us see an example
Somebody cheats you.
How you let go the emotions attached with this incident?
List the emotions first.
For example:
- Let him go to hell
- He is not fair
- How can he do this to me, when I have done so much to him?
(One thought will generate another thought)
Take the first one “Let him to hell”.
- Affirm, “I accept this thought.”
- I ask the mind,“Can I release it?”
- If it says no, then I question back the mind, “When can I release it?”
- If it keeps quiet, then I ask the mind, “Can I release at least 10% of the thought?”
- If it says yes, then I release the 10%.
It is just a mind game. Playing games with mind like this will confuse it.
A confused mind cannot have any impact on your actions.
Rule your MIND! Rule your LIFE!!
STOP the MIND’s Influence on YOU Part IV
Read part I in the series: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/
Part II: “The need for Letting GO” – http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/02/07/the-need-for-letting-go/
Part III: “Letting GO in Action” – http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/02/11/letting-go-in-action/
Your child is not studying
Letting go proves to be very difficult for the mother. Between feelings/emotions and action there is no gap. So she gets angry and scoldshim.
Then she will feel guilty and pamper him to appease him. During this process, the purpose of the son to study has been lost.
How to manage such a situation?
Whenever any emotion arises, ask the questions:
- What are the thoughts?
- What is the emotion behind the thought(s)?
- I accept this thought
- Can I release it?
By asking questions, you are creating a gap between thoughts and actions.
Will he study if I release the thought?He has not studied so far anyway.
Try this technique, release your anger and do the action. Then see the results for yourself whether he studies or not.
Why there are communication barriers between mother and son?
Emotions block the communication.
What isthe communication required here? He has to listen to us for him to study.
There can be three types of desires here.
Desire to control or change the person
He has to study very hard. He has to becomean Engineer and so on.
A framework is present here:
- Release the thought one after another
- Do I want to change this person/child?
- If I say yes, can I release my desire to control the person?
- We are only releasing the desire, and we are not releasing the action here.
- I release my desire to control the person. Only then your anger will go.
Desire for more security – feeling of insecurity
Is there is any desire to feel more secure?
Only if he studies well he will do well and then I will become free.
Where there is fear there is no presence of Divinity. Only Satan is present.
I release my fear.
These desires are born with ego.
Desire for approval
Others should recognize my son’s talent. Others should appreciate us (by appreciating my son’s excellence in his studies). People have to complement us (how well you have brought him up).
Another example where a husband desires his wife should treat him properly when he comes home from office.
Release that desire.
What if she appreciates you or not? You let go the craving for recognition.
More and more you should indulge in releasing thoughts, like a game.
Rule your mind instead of mind ruling you
Now mind is managing your life.
Instead, manage it yourself.
Then you do not need a teacher. You do not need anybody.
Therefore, just let go all the thoughts.
What this technique can do
- Achieving your goals. We are not saying no for achievement. We are only entitled for action and not fruits for the action.
- Keep saying release and go beyond likes and dislikes.
- Decision-making
- Breaking bad habits
- Better Health and Wealth
- Good Relationships
- Build better parent and children relationships
- In your career you will be able to do wonders
In entire life, you can let go and release. Everything will happen without your intervention.
Moving to a new location
Let us say, you want to come to Chennai.
Release your likes about Chennai then only you can come to Chennai.
- I release my likes for Chennai.
I like Chennai because of my liking to Hotel Saravana Bavan and Marina Beach in Chennai.
I accept my liking for Chennai.
Then, I release my liking for Chennai.
- I release my dislikes for Chennai.
I dislike Chennai, because of auto drivers, and it is very dirty.
What’s the desire that operates here?
There is a desire to control and to change it. For example, we say, ‘If I am given power, I will change it in no time’.
Here, we are only releasing the desires (or dislikes).
Likewise you can do the same when you are moving to a foreign country.
Release both your likes and dislikes related about a situation you wanted to change.
Failed to change my child’s behaviour
You want to control your child’s behavior. Instead of studying, he is watching the TV all the time.
- First say, “I release my desire to control him”. Then advise him.
Why? If you tell him anything with judgment, then he will never listen to you for sure.
How do we control our children? They have to be punctual, eat healthy, study well etc.
Thus, we control all their activities because we think they are to be corrected. We don’t allow them to grow in their own way.
- What will happen if we don’t tell them so?
If I don’t tell him then he won’t go to school.
- There is a fear he won’t go to school.
- So I release the fear that he won’t go to school.
- What will happen if he doesn’t go to school? Nothing will happen.
I have a responsibility as a mother. Other people should say that my child is a good child.
- Say, “I release my desire for approval”.
- In addition, say, “I release my desire to control him”.
- Release all the desires and then discipline him.
- There are three basic desires that are operating within us – desire to control, desire to get approval and desire for security.
Even if I wake him up, he doesn’t get up.
- How do you exercise your control with him? By getting angry with him, you are exercising your control over him.
- Release that.
- What’s that you don’t like about him? You dislike him because he is getting up late.
- Release your dislikes about him.
He doesn’t behave as per my expectations. If he gets up on time then he will be no 1 student
- This is your expectation.
- Release all your expectations about him and then you discipline him
Each and every matter you need to analyze like this and then take your actions.
Managing a stubborn person
Student
My son has a resistance to work. He will go late to office. He was warned three times.
One day he decides to go to office in casual wear. Even though I warned him, he didn’t want to listen to me.
Then, I decided to affirm, ‘I release my desire to change or control him’.
Naran
You have affirmed correctly. Please do it as many times as you can.
On and off our mind will not keep quiet. So we need to release our desire to control or change somebody.
React!But Release First!!
Deepa
Refer the blog: http://dare2doit.wordpress.com/2013/03/15/typical-indian-mentality/
You will say neutral. I say balanced.
One lady called mummy said nasty things about you on blog and I was aghast for a few minutes.
I did your rule “exercise”.
Later, saw coolly how you tackle everything and everyone!!
Naran
In fact, before replying to Mummy, I did the same.
I am glad you have done it too.
Please read the blog, I have written based on the action I took after I read Mummy’s comments: http://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2013/03/15/denying-pleasures/
This is the message I want to give it for one and all:
- We are entitled to act and not react.
- Release your emotions, beliefs, and thoughts as well as the desires operating behind them and then act.
- This way your actions will not be based on past memories, but on reality.
Stop thinking negative
Rhythm
I noticed that you always say that our conscious mind always has a tendency to create what we don’t want. Then how we can stop it, as we can’t stop thinking about our needs and desires?
If we think negative then it often creates it. Why then we wish positive when it doesn’t happen?
Naran
Just say, “I release this thought” as and when any thought arises.
If you have a desire, release that and work towards that desire.
Don’t think about the result while you are working towards your goal.
Accept whatever comes as results whether you wanted it or not:
- When you have got what you desired, then PRAY for others – who are denied and/or whose desires were unfulfilled.
- When you have not got what you desired, THANK the DIVINE for giving it to someone, who needed most.
Fighting for Happiness and Success
ALAMELU
As you said do not resist allow things to happen!!
How cannot we resist – myself verge of losing job -hubby not yet got job – severe mental stress killing me very badly. How I allow myself not to feel stressed.
Please let me know?
Naran
When you are on the verge of losing the job, will your worry or fear get the job back?
If so, have fear and worry.
Your fear and worry or anger is what is known as Resistance.
When you accept what is happening, you may see and utilize other avenues.
A message is received (from the incident why you lost the job).
Instead of being overtaken by the rush of emotions and thoughts, and becoming judgmental about what is happening (which is of no use), go within and watch your reaction.
Say, ‘Yes I accept this emotion. I release this’.
Go on releasing whatever thought comes to your mind.
After sometime, analyze why this emotion or these types of thoughts come.
Ask yourself is it because of your desire to change the event?
If the answer is yes, say, ‘I release my desire to control or change what is happening’.
Ask another question. Are all the emotions because of fear?
Whatever we fear will manifest. Say, ‘releasing this fear, I release my desire for security’.
Then when the mind is almost clear of restlessness, start chanting “I accept whatever happens totally”.
Check out the “RELEASE your RESISTANCE” CD, which will help you to release your resistance to find happiness and success in life.
Want my husband to appreciate my cooking
Student
If there is no desire for approval, what is the point in doing anything? My husband has never said so far my cooking is fine.
Naran
What I say here is acknowledge your desire, release it and then do the work.
- I release my desire for approval
- Give him the food
- He will appreciate it
If you don’t do the releasing then you will get angry that he has not appreciated your cooking.
If you ask me that’s why your Iddly is not coming out wellJ.
Try the following and tell me, how it works:
- I release my desire for approval
- Seeking approval is a form of seeking appreciation. Therefore, I release my desire for appreciation too.
Keep doing it!
- Ask him, “Why you didn’t appreciate about the food, that I had cooked for you”. Nevertheless, do not have emotion when you ask that.
- Even if you get angry, have anger, but affirm, ‘I release my desire to change my husband’.
- Keep chanting that as affirmation. Now you ask him why he did not appreciate.