Rule Your Mind
Is anger an unwanted feeling?
Naran
No it is not so. You can express your anger. But, your anger should not develop into hatred towards the person you are angry about. You should not continue to feel angry.
Once the anger has served its purpose, you should forget about it.
When you alight/get down from the bus you are travelling, you will not be running behind it.
In the same way, once you have expressed your emotion, you should not keep thinking about it. The reason being, if you stay with an emotion for a long time, your body will get affected.
Want to change past events
Naran
Acceptance is not compromising. If you want to know about acceptance, then you have to read the great epic Ramayana.
Some things we can accept and some we don’t. We have to probe in and find that out.
For example, you may wish you were aged twenty-five, while you are actually sixty-five now.
Sometimes we say if I would have met him fifteen minutes before his death, I could have done this, done that and so on.
We think like that. There is always an inherent desire to change something. It is all because of Dwesha (a part of mind), which does not like pain in any form.
Affirm many times, “I release my desire to change or control the past”.
Magic mantra- every day, week and month
RD
Today I was reading old articles. I was filled with eagerness to learn more and regret that I “wasted” my last four years.
Then I started repeating:
- “I release my desire to learn more”,
- “I release regrets of the past”
- “I accept the present”.
Soon my frame of mind was positive and cheerful again!!
This is a magic mantra.
All day now, I repeat this for all things! And finding myself closer and closer to the person I was – before all the stressful life events (happened to me).
From RULE your MIND Workshop notes
- Release the emotions you felt during the day
Do this exercise for all of them – taking one emotion at a time. Even if it is a positive feeling, release that. Find out the state of the mind and do the steps:
- “I welcome this state”,
- “I accept it”
- “Can I release that?”
Even if it is a negative emotion (or feeling) like anger, you release it.
Whatever that does not go, write it in a notebook and continue to work on it, until it goes.
What are the predominant emotions you had? During last seven days what incidents happened? What emotions you felt?
Welcome each one of them, accept them and release them by keep saying, “I release, I release”.
Are you able to remember any emotions? Are there are any emotion still persisting? When I say emotions, I mean not just negative emotions but also positive emotions.
Achieving your objectives
Naran
Ask the question, “What I want, that I am not able to do now”.
You can do this for anything.
For example, you want to move from Bangalore and settle down in Chennai. You are having this idea for one year and yet you are not able to do it.
Then ask the following questions:
- What are the advantages and disadvantages in coming to Chennai?
- What are the actions steps should I take?
- Each action step generates emotions. Release them one after another.
- What is the desire behind those emotions? Accept and release them.
- What is the advantage in being in Bangalore? Find out and release that too.
There is an advantage being in Bangalore and it works as a resistance to come to Chennai.
Accept and release your resistance, ‘I release my resistance to come to Chennai’.
Why something never happens in our lives
Naran
What’s the SECRET behind the fact that some things like “Buying My Own House” never happens?
These emotions, thoughts and desires are consciously operating. But, there’s one thing that unconsciously operates which is called as (internal) resistance.
For us, in our lives something never happens (whatever we might do). Who is responsible for that?
It’s we who are responsible for that.
I want to buy a house but I couldn’t buy it.
I want to get married but couldn’t get married. Why?
While there is some force behind “Wanting to get married”, then there is also an unconscious force that is equally operating that works towards “Not wanting to get married”.
When two forces equally strong operate from opposite sides, then we would be stand-still.
It is like while you give a throttle to the car, you apply for brakes also. Then the car will not move from the current place.
For all matters of life, this concept can be applied.
Keep the Restless Mind Quiet!!!
Naran S Balakumar
Even after trying many healing techniques, if nothing is happening, obviously your mind will become restless.
At that time you have to bring in peace to the mind. You have to convince the mind that “You are not destined to have this. Please be peaceful. Therefore, do not embark on this”.
How that peace does sets in our lives?
You have to bring that by chanting the mantra, “YUM HUM, HUM YUM”. This mantra will bring in peace immediately.
Keep the eyes closed, while chanting the mantra.
Mortal Fear vs. Divine Faith
Srividya
I have polycystic ovaries problem. I am taking homeopathy medicine for that. Can I try something else to speed up the process of recovery?
In addition, I have lots of negative thinking. I always keep thinking about health and have a great fear of diseases.
This started two years back. Because of this even if I have a small symptom, I Google and scare myself that I have some big disease.
After reading your blogs, I found MIMULUS is a probable remedy. I started chanting the remedy yesterday but my right thigh started having tingling sensation. What does this signify?
What can I do to become a positive person and not keep thinking about health?
Naran
You can take MIMULUS daily, three pills, six times in a day. It is a Bach flower remedy available in all homeopathy shops.
A tingling sensation in thighs means “Ignore and move ahead. Have faith in the universe”.
What is the difference between fear and faith? Fear tells you that something bad is going to happen. Faith tells you that something good will happens.Convert your fear into faith.
Asking your child to study
Naran S Balakumar
Understand how your mind operates first
It is not fault-finding within us. Once we understand that, then we can do start our work.
We check first, for example:
- Is this a desire to control?
- Is this desire for approval?
- Is this desiring for security?
You may tell your son that he should not to go out, but study instead.
I am not saying that you should not do that. Neither, I ask you to change your character or behaviour.
But, first understand what is operating inside the mind. Release… Then you take the necessary action.
Understand your mind first, as otherwise you will be operating from a desire to control and you will not get the desired results.
Release your Desire to Control
- Say to yourself that ‘This is my desire to control’. Can I release this desire to control?
- Affirm, ‘I release my desire to control’ as many times as possible.
- Then do the action.
I nullify my desires. I deactivate them and then take my action. This is what the Gita says, ‘Samo Boodhva Kuru Karmani” – which means keep your mind in equanimity, and do this action.
How to keep the mind in equanimity
Whatever operates as desires, release them. Then you can attain that state. The idea is to keep the mind in equanimity and then taking an action.
Why do I need to release my desires and emotions?
First two times, you will tell your son normally not to go out. Third time you will get angry.
I am only asking you to release this anger before talking to him for the third time.
Remove the plasters inside the mind
M
Today, my 6-year old daughter fell in school and got a small crack in her right hand. The doctor put plaster to her hand.
At first she was alright. After 1-2 hour,she started telling us to cut the plaster and was saying, “I don’t want fracture. It’s hot inside”.
I tried a lot to comfort her. We both parents felt so bad.
Pls help me what can I do for her speedy recovery. Also, for her uneasy feeling for her plaster. Plaster will remain for at least 3 weeks.
Naran
Affirm:
“I release the part in me that makes her feel unhappy”.
“I am open and align with the part in me that brings in her speedy recovery”
You can change the affirmation to suit your situation.
M (after 4 days)
My daughter is quite happy, relaxed and comfortable now and much, much better than before.Thank you….
Broken promises
Grace
I keep on coming to situations where I am promised something but do not receive it. My hopes are dashed.
It started as a small problem but the effect of the broken promises and lack of consideration have brought me to a place of heartache, having no idea how to relate to people and mistrust.
I have tried techniques and it is not working out. Any suggestions?
Naran
What do you mean by “not working out”?
When the same situations are repeated for us, it means that there is something still to be corrected within us. In spite of the techniques, you fail to notice the lessons given.
Every time, the same situation is there for you. The same situation is produced not by the same person. Think where the problem lies. Correct what is to be corrected!
Affirm:
“I release that part which brings me broken promises”.
“I activate that part which finds true persons.”