Posts tagged allow
Allow the child to be a child
UPK
I want to inculcate the values of politeness and self-control in my 8-year-old daughter.
She keeps getting angry for every small thing and loses self-control. She gets very tempted with all material possessions and never really wants to share with others until forced to.
I am worried that she might land up in trouble with this kind of an attitude in future.
Naran
Don’t teach her anything.
She will come up well. Allow the child to be a child.
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Your Agenda Vs Divine Agenda
Naran
Suri walked into my office with a dejected face. He was worried that he is in trouble, for he hasn’t achieved last month’s sales target due to his own personal commitments.
He is worried that his manager will blast him during their next monthly meeting.
I said his worry is based on his own agenda, while the divine’s agenda might be different, He thinks his manager would question about the dip in sales, while divine mayn’t make the manger raise the topic at all.
Instead of expecting to have problem and keeps on worrying about it, he is overriding the divine agenda and mentally forcing the manager to bring the subject.
So, I asked him to stop thinking about the subject, and prepare his usual monthly report that he normally prepares for the monthly meeting.
I also suggested him to chant the names of the Bach Flower remedies, “ELM, OAK, CHESTNUT BUD”.
I gave Elm and Oak to be ready for any unexpected questions and Chestnut Bud not to repeat the mistake once again.
The monthly meeting happened. His boss never even mentioned about the sale’s target and moved onto other issues.
Let us be silent and allow divine to work its agenda.
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Bach Flower Remedies June 27 2009 Part II: http://reachnaran.com/bach-flower-remedies-june-27-2009-part-ii/
How to love parents who are cruel
Grace
My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?
Naran
The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?
While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.
We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.
By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.
In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.
You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?
See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.
When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.
Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.
Grace
Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.
I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).
Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.
Naran
Don’t drag them into your life now.
Unite all the parts.
Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.
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Find why I am successful
Deepa
I had spoken with you three days back regarding my loan getting sanctioned. You had asked me to chant “GORSE, WATER VIOLET, ROCK WATER”. And I am still chanting it. Hope it will help me.
It has shown some positive results but it is taking time. Kindly help me in getting the process done faster. I will be in trouble if this delays.
Naran
Please add as follows: “GORSE, WATER VIOLET, ROCK WATER, FIND WHY I got the loan from bank NOW DONE”
Examples
When you ask the question ‘Why’ something has happened, your subconscious mind will find a way to make it happen.
However, allow time and mind to make it happen. Whatever comes the way, follow that route, which will eventually lead you to the result you desire for.
Some of the examples are:
- “FIND WHY I had a great time at the party”
- “FIND WHY I had a successful married life with so and so person”
- “FIND WHY I am considered as a topper in my college”