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Easy Way to Reach Divine
GA
During last week, I had been diagnosed with ectopic/tubal pregnancy.
Foetus was healthy and well growing, but growing at wrong place. So, as per doctor’s advice, I had to terminate that pregnancy.
I remained sad for one two days and not only me but whole family was sad.
I know everything is happening for the best and according to all merciful supreme lords’ will. I myself have seen so many worst looking events turning into beneficial ones afterwards.
But, during the moments of emotional trauma all this theoretical and practical knowledge disappears from mind.
Is there any method or technique other than meditation to train our minds to happily and calmly accept all such events, which are beyond our control and purely according to divine will?
And how should we perceive such incidents to feel less or no grief?
Naran
Feeling less grief is not to be imposed.
Go through the emotions, which naturally surface and bow to them and come out.
When there is great distress over grief or when there is reason for grieving, weep, weep.
Weeping is easy way of reaching the divine.
Let us not feel shy for weeping. Yes, there was expectation in vain. Feel sad and weep to get over that. Weeping intensely will ultimately relieve you from the burden.
A solace is given by weeping. When you think that you can no more weep, just say, “I bow to this weeping and go beyond this state.”
Repeat within after the weeping episode, the Radha’s prayer:
“Krishna, my lord, whether thou chooses for me life or death, happiness or sorrow , pleasure or suffering, all that comes to me from thee, is always welcome”.
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Detach Emotionally
Ravi
I have a problem of getting emotionally attached to people (especially of the opposite sex). They would come on my mind for maximum times of the day.
I unknowingly get so involved that after some time in the relationship, I say or do things that I don’t want to or that which is not good for the relation. Then of course there is friction in the relation.
I really start to feel the energy when this starts to happen. I try to control but cannot.
Naran
Do the forgiving exercise with EFT (tapping).
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Roles People Play
Reddy
Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.
At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.
In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.
However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.
In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.
However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.
At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.
Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.
Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.
Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.
Naran
Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.
What is that we lack in any role?
Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?
The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.
BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.
What are the negative mental states of Beech?
- Unable to understand other man’s point of view
- Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
- Intolerance
- Fault-finding
- Desire to control or change the other person
If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?
BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.
WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.
For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.
“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.
Rushrush
Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.
I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….
I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….
I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!
Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……
Stop! Craving for food!!
Naran
Give the Bach Flower Remedy CHICORY, as greediness is expressed through food. Add it with ROCK WATER and CHERRY PLUM.
WALNUT should be taken separately.
Explanation
Rock Water is prescribed for thinking, “I want to be strict with myself. I want to be self-disciplined”.
Cherry plum is for temptation and Chicory to come out of self-gratification (compensatory behavior).
Cherry Plum is added as they will feel, “I want to control my craving”.
Rock Water and Cherry plum go together, because if somebody says, “I want to control”, then they will lose their control”.
Walnut is given to form a habit of eating properly.
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Addiction to drink: http://reachnaran.com/addiction-to-drink/
Program Your Life Part II
Read the first part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/program-your-life-part-i/
Be with your feelings
Naran
Focus on the feeling, with Adi Mudra.
Say, “Yes, there is … (mention the feeling here, for example, a feeling of sadness)”
“I welcome this … (feeling)”. But, can I let go this feeling?
If you get the answer “yes”, then just say, “I let go of this … (feeling)”
Is the feeling is still there? Ask the mind, “Can I let go just 10% of the feeling?” If the answer is yes, then proceed further and let go another 10%.
Still you are unable to come out of stagnation.
Now, observe your thoughts.
Can I release this thought?
If the answer is yes then say, “I release … (thought)”
If the answer is “no”, then ask another question, “Is this thought useful to me?”
“No.” means you need to let go of the thoughts. Release all the thoughts one by one.
Find out which desire is behind the emotions.
Is it the desire to control or change the person or event, or the desire for approval or the desire to feel more secure? Ask the mind again.
If there is desire to control or change ask, “Can I release the desire to control?”
Yes means, “I accept my desire to control but I let go this desire to control”.
Is there any desire for approval? (Desiring for praise, recognition)
If yes means, “I just release this desire for approval.”
Is there any desire to feel more secure? or is there is any fear?
If yes means, “I release this desire to feel more secure; or i release my lack of trust ”
After some time, there will not be any feeling or thought. Peace dawns. Now take the required action.
Read the final part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/exercises-for-program-your-life/
Husband is angry, while I am smiling
Sreelu
I am chanting “OM HREEM TAHA” and also giving it to my family members. I feel good.
I am even chanting it holding my husband’s photo and my daughters too, as ours is a short-tempered family. I am feeling a difference in the way we are handling things.
When my husband is angry I am smiling and answering. Sometimes, he is ignoring my comments.
However, I see good results. How many days shall I continue doing this?
Naran
Continue.
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