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Easy Way to Reach Divine
GA
During last week, I had been diagnosed with ectopic/tubal pregnancy.
Foetus was healthy and well growing, but growing at wrong place. So, as per doctor’s advice, I had to terminate that pregnancy.
I remained sad for one two days and not only me but whole family was sad.
I know everything is happening for the best and according to all merciful supreme lords’ will. I myself have seen so many worst looking events turning into beneficial ones afterwards.
But, during the moments of emotional trauma all this theoretical and practical knowledge disappears from mind.
Is there any method or technique other than meditation to train our minds to happily and calmly accept all such events, which are beyond our control and purely according to divine will?
And how should we perceive such incidents to feel less or no grief?
Naran
Feeling less grief is not to be imposed.
Go through the emotions, which naturally surface and bow to them and come out.
When there is great distress over grief or when there is reason for grieving, weep, weep.
Weeping is easy way of reaching the divine.
Let us not feel shy for weeping. Yes, there was expectation in vain. Feel sad and weep to get over that. Weeping intensely will ultimately relieve you from the burden.
A solace is given by weeping. When you think that you can no more weep, just say, “I bow to this weeping and go beyond this state.”
Repeat within after the weeping episode, the Radha’s prayer:
“Krishna, my lord, whether thou chooses for me life or death, happiness or sorrow , pleasure or suffering, all that comes to me from thee, is always welcome”.
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How to love parents who are cruel
Grace
My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?
Naran
The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?
While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.
We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.
By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.
In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.
You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?
See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.
When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.
Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.
Grace
Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.
I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).
Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.
Naran
Don’t drag them into your life now.
Unite all the parts.
Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.
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Golden words are to be repeated
Leela
As guided by you in the past few weeks, I am calm and peaceful by myself. Now that the marriage is round the corner (of my niece – husband’s brother’s daughter), I need to attend.
All the past incidents of harassment, sarcastic remarks, aloofness etc. of my husband’s Anni is coming to my mind and I need enough strength to face it all this time.
I want to raise above all this silly behavior of others and come out successfully, to neutralize my karma.
Naran
Chant “CHOCOLATE CONCEDE TOGETHER DIVINE”.
Chant “I am sorry. Please forgive me”, as many times as possible.
Your anger and resentment – whether it is right or not – will upset your stomach, which in turn increases your insecurity.
Take the flower remedies AGRIMONY, WILLOW and CHERRY PLUM.
Leela
Since yesterday, I am practicing as advised by you. I do not understand, why, often I get this thought flashed in my mind that I need to move away from my husband?
I do not know if it is a natural process. It is a soul-searching experience for me. I need your divine help and guidance.
Naran
Soul searching is to happen within. It does not depend on outside person or event.
Leela
I attended the marriage and chanted the Switch Words as advised by you.
I am back to Bangalore.
I am trying to find the golden nugget … May be my spiritual awareness is not enough to find one.
As I have disclosed to you before, I have this urgent need to go back to work in UK. I have contacted my ex-colleagues, friends, and contacts and passed on my resume.
Initially, they were very encouraging, told me to help me out with a job.
But as days went by, there is no communication from them regarding my application status.
Also, I have applied many jobs. It is Apply, Apply, but no reply.
I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE FIND JOB COUNT NOW ORDER DONE” and also recently after reading one of your blogs regarding chakra cleansing, I have chanting Bija Mantras (OM LUM…)
In between, I am chanting forgive exercise to my husband too. Please advise, what can be chanted.
Naran
Move away with love in the heart and not in resentment
For job: chant “CRYSTAL GORSE WOLF REACH HELP JOB COUNT NOW DONE”
Leela
I am writing this mail, rather after a long time. I am following the chants and forgive exercise as advised by you.
There are lots of changes in me. I am able to forgive many things now.
Though, I still remember the events, which had caused me so much anger, hurt and other negative emotions.
After forgive exercise, these emotions have drastically reduced to an intensity of zero!
I am now able to appreciate the switch word “CHOCOLATE” as suggested by you.
The golden nugget in my case is to get re introduced to healing techniques through you.
Thank you very much for your Grace and support you have extended to me.
The top most emotional layer of healing has taken place. As a result, my relationship with my husband has improved.
As regards to finding a job, this is the next layer to be dealt with. I am chanting and many times writing the Switch words.
CRYSTAL has strengthened my intention of job seeking.
I am now more confident and beginning to understand what I want. My previous emotional state of confusion together with mixed feelings is no more. I am more calm and focused.
Our friend – WOLF is bringing me some leads for job searching and I am working on it.