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Program Your Life Part II

10 years ago
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Read the first part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/program-your-life-part-i/

Be with your feelings

Naran

Focus on the feeling, with Adi Mudra.

Say, “Yes, there is … (mention the feeling here, for example, a feeling of sadness)”

“I welcome this … (feeling)”. But, can I let go this feeling?

If you get the answer “yes”, then just say, “I let go of this … (feeling)”

Is the feeling is still there? Ask the mind, “Can I let go just 10% of the feeling?” If the answer is yes, then proceed further and let go another 10%.

Still you are unable to come out of stagnation.

Now, observe your thoughts.

Can I release this thought?

If the answer is yes then say, “I release … (thought)”

If the answer is “no”, then ask another question, “Is this thought useful to me?”

“No.” means you need to let go of the thoughts. Release all the thoughts one by one.

Find out which desire is behind the emotions.

Is it the desire to control or change the person or event, or the desire for approval or the desire to feel more secure? Ask the mind again.

If there is desire to control or change ask, “Can I release the desire to control?”

Yes means, “I accept my desire to control but I let go this desire to control”.

Is there any desire for approval? (Desiring for praise, recognition)

If yes means, “I just release this desire for approval.”

Is there any desire to feel more secure? or is there is any fear?

If yes means, “I release this desire to feel more secure; or i release my lack of trust ”

After some time, there will not be any feeling or thought. Peace dawns. Now take the required action. 

Read the final part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/exercises-for-program-your-life/

Worried About Losing My Friendship

10 years ago
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Client

I have a misunderstanding with a friend of mine. I am not sure, next time when I meet her, whether she will properly talk to me or not.

For the last two days, I have this anxiety. So, I released all my anxiety. Now I feel ok.

However, I am worried, when I meet her next time how she will react and how will I handle it.

Naran

1.       Release the anxiety (worry).

2.       You are having a desire to keep the friendship going. Release this desire too.

You are only releasing the thought, emotions and desires. You are not stopping the actions (to be her friend).

Here, instead of the enacting the usual drama we create, we simply observe what is happening in our mind. We release and observe the whole incident as a third person.

Which is convenient – fearing about something or releasing?

In the end, we keep the mind blank – free from worries, anger and fears.

What are the ultimate results we gain due to this technique?

As long as we are working from a noisy mind, there will not be any solution to the problem. 

By releasing all the emotions (and thoughts and desires) one after another, we are taking one step after another towards a litter-free (mind) zone, where we will be free of our emotions and thoughts.

Then the solution for the problem will be found automatically as that part of the mind (litter free zone) knows how to tackle the problem.

In this technique, we do no prayers.

If my house is full of garbage what will I do?

I will simply clear them isn’t it? When I remove all the clutters in the house it becomes good.

In the same way, I release all the clutters from my mind.

Desire is the motivator behind our actions. For me what is motivating me to seek friendship in my friend? There is a desire for approval operating in it. Release it.

When anything comes inside your mind, Just say, “Can I release? Yes. I release this. I let go this…”

Related Posts

Old One Dies New One Blooms: http://reachnaran.com/old-one-dies-new-one-blooms/

The Driver for Relationships, Desires and Talent: http://reachnaran.com/the-driver-for-relationships-desires-and-talent/

Opening the chakras with mantras: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2009/07/10/opening-the-chakras-with-mantras/

How to love parents who are cruel

10 years ago
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Grace

My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?

Naran

The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?

While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.

We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.

By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.

In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.

You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?

See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.

When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.

Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.

Grace

Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.

I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).

Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.

Naran

Don’t drag them into your life now.

Unite all the parts.

Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.

Related Posts

There are no accidents only incidents: http://reachnaran.com/there-are-no-accidents-only-incidents/

Relationship with Parents equals Relationship with others: http://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2012/07/30/relationship-with-your-parents-relationship-with-others/

Remove the plasters inside the mind: http://reachchildcare.wordpress.com/2013/10/13/remove-the-plasters-inside-the-mind/

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