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Simple ways to meditate Part II
Read the first part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/simple-ways-to-meditate-part-i/
How to acquire a good breathing pattern?
- When you meditate, place the index finger at the base of the thumb on both the hands. Breathing will get deeper and you could meditate properly, as shallow breathing spoils it.
- Don’t take the index finger straight away move your finger to the base of the thumb. First touch the tip of thumb with the index finger. Then after some time, move the index finger to the middle of the thumb, and finally the base of the thumb.
- Don’t do it mechanically. Feel the breath with a conscious awareness.
- Observing your breathing is also a good way to meditate. This is part of meditation known as Vipassana meditation.
Space Meditation
- After learning to breathe well, do the space meditation.
- Be aware of the space between the chair you are sitting and the wall. Don’t look at the wall. Instead look at the space between you and the wall.
- This is known as ‘Space Meditation’. Keep the eyes open throughout.
Bach Flower Remedies as Aids to Meditation
White chestnut helps to remove our thoughts, Chestnut bud not to have any distractions and Willow if you think one or the other bothers you.
Chant Mantra during Meditation
It’s nature of our mind to cling to something. You can choose a mantra to do that. After sometime you should be able to say goodbye to it. Mantra itself is not divinity. It means constantly thinking about a word, which is a mantra. Ultimately that also should go.
When it will go? We don’t know. May be, it’s not in this Janma.
How to love parents who are cruel
Grace
My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?
Naran
The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?
While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.
We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.
By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.
In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.
You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?
See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.
When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.
Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.
Grace
Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.
I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).
Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.
Naran
Don’t drag them into your life now.
Unite all the parts.
Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.
Related Posts
There are no accidents only incidents: http://reachnaran.com/there-are-no-accidents-only-incidents/
Relationship with Parents equals Relationship with others: http://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2012/07/30/relationship-with-your-parents-relationship-with-others/
Remove the plasters inside the mind: http://reachchildcare.wordpress.com/2013/10/13/remove-the-plasters-inside-the-mind/