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Affair with another man
S
My husband is having an affair with another man.
We live in same house but separate room since 7 yrs. He’s not interested in me.
We have two children. I want him to leave the house and go far from us as I’m only 33 yrs old and I want to start a fresh life.
Pls help me as I’m so lonely and feel rejected. Help me brother! I want a way out!!
Naran
- Chant “RUBY, HOLLY, VINE”.
- Write these names also in a notebook daily 51 times.
Explanation
To break the relationship with the husband: (Gem) Ruby.it gives the needed courage to start life independently.
To heal the rejected feeling and to re-align with the energy of love, HOLY and VINE will help, because the new life is to start with love in the heart.
Found My Gold Earring
Biswasri Datta, Mar 6th
My wife has lost a gold earring today and two months back she had lost a gold locket during traveling.
Naran, Mar 5th
You will not get (the gold locket). Chant “GORSE, SLOW CARE” daily.
Biswasri Datta, Mar 6th
I got back my wife’s earring with in a night after chanting “CERATO, CHESTNUT BUD, ROCK WATER” as mentioned in the blog, “Secret to Find the Lost Objects”: http://healbybachflowers.wordpress.com/2012/02/08/secret-to-find-the-lost-objects/.
This is really a miracle only because of you.
Sunita
If Mr. Datta is not to get it back than why he should chant?
Naran
The switch words (SLOW CARE) will help him to be careful in the future. The Bach Flower GORSE is suggested for the hopeless situation of not getting back the ornament.
Idea is to come out of the current mental state, so that we will not be in the same situation in the future.
Purpose of Tapping
(From Multi-Dimensional Healing June 27 Workshop)
Naran
Simple way of tapping/EFT
Pull the entire 10 fingers one at a time as well as the gamut point (it’s the hollow place between the front little and ring fingers).
For any type of problem, pull each finger and tap on gamut, and affirm “I accept myself totally”.
What does the affirmation means?
It means that I accept my life situation, the event, as well as my feelings and my thoughts.
How to make sure we are not influenced by a situation?
Situation is one percent, our reaction is 99%. It becomes bothersome or problematic because of our own mind.
You are watching an accident on the road. A person riding a motor cycle had met with an accident.
The mother of the person, who was watching it happen, will react more strongly than others. Same event but reactions are different.
Our habit is to react emotionally. If we don’t have connection to the situation, I am not affected. Who gives this link? Isn’t it the mind?
If you do tapping then you will come out of the panic situation.
Why should you come out of the panic situation?
Then you can help, as you have a calm and tranquil mind. You will react calmly and do the necessary. Instead we overreact and spoil the whole thing.
Stop your negative reactions
Client
Is there is a simple way to react negatively to others?
Naran
If somebody is dead, will you react to them negatively?
In the same way, if you feel somebody is irritating or provoking you, think that you are dead, becoming non-reactive.
Related Posts
Put a stop to your angry reactions: http://theflowerangels.wordpress.com/2014/01/06/put-a-stop-to-your-angry-reactions/
Recreate the life you want: http://reachnaran.com/recreate-the-life-you-want/
Roles People Play
Reddy
Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.
At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.
In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.
However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.
In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.
However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.
At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.
Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.
Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.
Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.
Naran
Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.
What is that we lack in any role?
Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?
The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.
BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.
What are the negative mental states of Beech?
- Unable to understand other man’s point of view
- Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
- Intolerance
- Fault-finding
- Desire to control or change the other person
If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?
BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.
WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.
For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.
“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.
Rushrush
Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.
I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….
I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….
I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!
Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……
Simple ways to meditate Part I
Naran
Meditation is an experience that nobody can teach you.
Neither can we go to deep into meditation suddenly as it’s a practice and a habit that is formed over a period of time.
Meditation means, to remain silent. Though, thoughts keep appearing.
If any thought is present then it’s not meditation. How to remain thoughtless though?
Remaining silent with releasing techniques
How to remain silent in spite of thoughts?
Mind can cling to picture or a mantra.
Do we have a mantra for silence? There is no mantra for silence.
However, there is a technique to create silence. The technique is as follows:
- When a thought comes don’t resist it. Say inside you, ‘this is my thought’. Thus, you disassociate yourself from the thought.
- Then ask the question to yourself, ‘Can I let go this thought?’ It will go. You can also say “release”. Then it will go.
- Now, there will be at least a one second gap between thoughts. This is equivalent to one hour of meditation. In general, we never have a gap between thoughts. In general we might have ten thoughts in one second.
- If you do not want the “let go” step, then form your own mantra or word. When we say that mantra, we create a gap between the thoughts.
- When a thought comes, interrupt it with the mantra and you will become silent. When another thought comes, say the mantra. The silence in between the mantra is meditation.
Need for pranic and physical bodies to be in coordination
Our pranic body and physical body have to be in coordination. Otherwise, we can’t meditate.
If we regulate our breathing pattern or do pranayama then they will be in coordination.
This is because both breathing and prana have the same origin. When breathing is regulated, prana is regulated too.
Pranic body has to be clear of impurities
When the pranic body is clean, then the meditation can be done successfully.
Why so much impurities in the pranic field?
It’s due to the mind. My own sadness and worries create these impurities. With the help of pranayama, one can clean these impurities.
Read the second part of the article here: http://reachnaran.com/simple-ways-to-meditate-part-ii/
Recreate the Life You Want
Naran
I am Helpless and Living In Hell! How can I create my world?
As long as I believe that I and My Mind are one and the same, and accepting whatever mind creates, my life is helpless and hell.
As long as I am not aware that I can RECREATE or REPROGRAM my life, I lose all the power.
Not knowing that I can reprogram my mind and life is ignorance.
Our mind is full of emotions, thoughts, and reactions. As long as they alone make up our mind, we don’t have any choice but to live our lives without any power.
Become POWERFUL
When there is awareness, when we come to know that we are not our mind, a new POWER surges in.
We will be able to RECREATE our own world to an extent with this little awareness. We can then become POWERFUL and take our lives into our own hands.
Releasing is a self-empowering tool, which changes our outlook about our lives.
What is this technique all about?
It is simply a process of letting go and releasing the emotions and thoughts as and when they arise.
How to implement it?
It is very simple. Whenever we tend to react, just say, “I let go this feeling”.
E.g., “Fear, can you please go? This is not the time for you. For the time being please go out. This is not your place either.”
See what happens. The mind becomes baffled and the emotion flees.
Do not react, but release and act
Reactions destroy our peace of mind. Once our uncontrollable emotions and thoughts are let off, we will find a peace deep inside us.
Releasing is a technique for allowing us to change on the spot.
Releasing allows us to handle any problem by releasing and letting go and thus stops the inner mental struggle.
Reactions intensify the mental struggle. Releasing gives us a new outlook. Reactions repeat the same drama.
Related Posts
Create a new healthy body: http://reachnaran.com/create-a-new-healthy-body/
My married life is like living in a hostel: http://reachnaran.com/my-married-life-is-like-living-in-a-hostel/
Positive vs. Negative thoughts: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/07/08/positive-vs-negative-thoughts/
Choosing from two actions
Naran
When you want to do two things at the same time and you want to decide which one to do.
Find both positive and minus points for both the actions. Release them two days before doing them
Then you will be able to come to a decision.
Related Posts
Not able to get accommodation: http://reachnaran.com/not-able-to-get-accommodation/
I feel small, when he criticizes me: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/01/19/i-feel-small-when-he-criticizes-me-%E2%80%93-a-case-history/
Want a promotion: http://joboneoone.wordpress.com/2013/06/16/want-a-promotion/