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Roles People Play
Reddy
Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.
At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.
In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.
However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.
In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.
However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.
At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.
Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.
Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.
Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.
Naran
Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.
What is that we lack in any role?
Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?
The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.
BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.
What are the negative mental states of Beech?
- Unable to understand other man’s point of view
- Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
- Intolerance
- Fault-finding
- Desire to control or change the other person
If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?
BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.
WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.
For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.
“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.
Rushrush
Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.
I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….
I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….
I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!
Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……
Does karma theory says murderer can go scot free
GA
Thanks for your reply to my previous question. You have advised me to surrender before the ultimate reality. I am trying to do so.
I think you are not from this universe. You are a divine personality. Your words are very powerful – even magical, having a deep impact on my mind and soul.
I am a little bit confused about the theory of karma. As we know, we all are facing good or bad in our lives due to our own good or bad karmas and we should not blame others for our sufferings.
The point at which I am confused is that if someone does some harm to us then we say this is result of our own karma and the person is just a medium.
For an example, somebody kills a man then the man should have definitely done such type of karmic account with the murderer or have done something wrong in the past, for which he has to be punished like this by divine forces.
If it is just the previous account which is settling down now and the murderer is just a medium then murderer should not be punished anywhere not here or not in another world.
And as you say that divine forces compel us to do specific karma as per our nature or prakriti then in this case divine wants the killed man to be punished like this and the murderer is just a divine helper or a medium.
So my question is this that the person who becomes the medium (who is apparently doing wrong karma) in another person’s suffering (as my suffering is due to my own bad karma) will be punished for this by divinity?
If no, is it because he is just a medium? I hope you will show me some light.
Naran
Karma theory is just an explanation put forward. If you want to justify karma theory, it leads you to confusion.
Karma will act upon one, who does not think that he is the tool of divine.
All our reactions and views are happening at the outer mind – the mind that looks outside and assesses. Nothing that affects the outer mind affects the inner mind at all.
Whenever you want an answer, just ask the questions and go inside. Stop analyzing. Be silent. Silence alone will bring the answer.
The inner mind sees what the outer mind does not see. It also does not see what the outer mind sees.
Stop reading books on spiritualism or karma etc.
Related Posts
Karma Vs Free Will: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2012/08/10/karma-vs-free-will/
How to Handle Your Karma: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2009/07/17/how-to-handle-your-karma/
Bed-time Ritual: http://reachnaran.com/bed-time-ritual/
Recreate the Life You Want
Naran
I am Helpless and Living In Hell! How can I create my world?
As long as I believe that I and My Mind are one and the same, and accepting whatever mind creates, my life is helpless and hell.
As long as I am not aware that I can RECREATE or REPROGRAM my life, I lose all the power.
Not knowing that I can reprogram my mind and life is ignorance.
Our mind is full of emotions, thoughts, and reactions. As long as they alone make up our mind, we don’t have any choice but to live our lives without any power.
Become POWERFUL
When there is awareness, when we come to know that we are not our mind, a new POWER surges in.
We will be able to RECREATE our own world to an extent with this little awareness. We can then become POWERFUL and take our lives into our own hands.
Releasing is a self-empowering tool, which changes our outlook about our lives.
What is this technique all about?
It is simply a process of letting go and releasing the emotions and thoughts as and when they arise.
How to implement it?
It is very simple. Whenever we tend to react, just say, “I let go this feeling”.
E.g., “Fear, can you please go? This is not the time for you. For the time being please go out. This is not your place either.”
See what happens. The mind becomes baffled and the emotion flees.
Do not react, but release and act
Reactions destroy our peace of mind. Once our uncontrollable emotions and thoughts are let off, we will find a peace deep inside us.
Releasing is a technique for allowing us to change on the spot.
Releasing allows us to handle any problem by releasing and letting go and thus stops the inner mental struggle.
Reactions intensify the mental struggle. Releasing gives us a new outlook. Reactions repeat the same drama.
Related Posts
Create a new healthy body: http://reachnaran.com/create-a-new-healthy-body/
My married life is like living in a hostel: http://reachnaran.com/my-married-life-is-like-living-in-a-hostel/
Positive vs. Negative thoughts: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/07/08/positive-vs-negative-thoughts/