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My husband stopped drinking
Discussion
Raji: I am married for 8 years. I have a daughter who is 7yrs old. When I became pregnant, I got separated from my husband.
Naran: Are you still separated?
Raji: No. We are living together for the last one year.
Naran: What is your problem since you had been together?
Raji: My husband is an alcoholic. Once in 3 or 4 days, he gets drunk as well as daily consuming Pan Parag (a tobacco product).
Naran: Since how long he has been an alcoholic?
Raji: According to my in laws he started drinking from his graduation days.
Naran: Explain his behavior after he gets drunk?
Raji: He will get angry at me and my daughter; will shout.
Naran: What does he shout about?
Raji: He will say, “Nobody respects me. There is no respect for me even in my own house. My daughter does not respect me. My friends, my employees, and my parents don’t respect me either. I will teach all of them a lesson”.
After the outburst, he will start weeping.
Naran’s Analysis
To be respected is the key word for ROCK WATER.
He is weeping. By losing control of himself, he weeps. Therefore, add CHERRY PLUM.
Rock Water will ultimately turn into either CHESTNUT BUD or VINE.
Discussion (cont…)
Naran: How is his behavior when he is not under the influence of alcohol?
Raji: His behavior is quite normal only. He shows his love for his daughter. In fact he sincerely made efforts for our reunion.
(Naran questioned further about her husband’s profession)
Naran: What is he doing?
Raji: He is running a Screen Printing unit. But it is not doing well.
Naran: How does he manage to pay his workers and take care of the family then?
Raji: He is honest in paying out the dues. Somehow, he will manage to pay the workers first, and then gives me money once a week.
Naran’s Analysis
Honesty – ROCK WATER
When one tries to be honest, in spite of adverse circumstances, self-control is employed to the maximum in one area.
He is so self-controlled in the area of finance that he loses self-control in some other area. Thus when he drinks, he loses his control and starts weeping.
Discussion (cont…)
Naran: Suppose if he can’t pay his dues, then how does he manage?
Raji: Naran, one more thing, I have forgotten to tell you. Every month before paying the rent, he would abscond.
Naran: Why?
Raji: He cannot pay the house rent by first of every month. Therefore, he feels ashamed to meet the house owner. So he would not stay in the house during the first week of the month.
Instead, he would stay with his parents for 4 or 5 days, arrange for the money, and will return back home after paying the rent. He has been doing this for a long time. Though, he would never cheat anybody.
Naran’s Analysis
Honest and at the same time an escapist. This is the case of a ROCK WATER person turning into CHESTNUT BUD character. On the due date, he would abscond (Chestnut Bud).
Key Words for Rock Water
To be respected: Ego and pride; self control, honesty.
Self controlled, honest person expects self respect. As a principle, he would never cheat.
Here the husband doesn’t get respect. His ego is hurt when he is insulted. He loses his control when he drinks.
One more interesting point is Rock Water father will face a Cherry Plum daughter.
Prescription
ROCK WATER, CHERRY PLUM, CHESTNUT BUD and WALNUT (to break the habit)
Put the combination in the common drinking water, so that everybody will get the healing effect.
Feedback after 15 days
Raji: From the second day onwards, he stopped Pan Parag, and after a week he has stopped drinking.
Rude Boss becomes Appreciating Boss
Swarna
Sometimes things seem to get worse before it gets better. But in getting worse the situation tests us and strengthens us in ways we cannot imagine or know.
All we need to learn is to sit still and watch our mind as the fluid situation morphs, and shifts.
We learn to see our fear, guilt, and our negative tendencies.
We learn to be watchful, not restful. We understand that growth, life, is characterized by changes.
Situations morph rapidly. We realize that there is really no beginning or end, it is our mind that creates the illusion.
We learned these from our own experience detailed below:
One man, thirty machines and endless working hours
Last year, we contacted Naran when my husband was going through lot of challenges at work. He had been in the new job for two years and doing very well.
Then, the supervisor began adding new machines to the lab. It was one man and 15 machines to begin with. It was manageable.
Each machine was specialized and the chemicals cost a lot of money. If experiments failed, it would be difficult to make up for the loss of valuable samples and the wastage of time and money. It was challenging to finish jobs that were lined up on all of the machines.
The lab ended up with 30 machines and one man. Working continuously made my husband tired and unable to think. And he began to work on weekends too. To make the situation worse, his supervisor began to shout at him.
My husband was threatened that he will be fired
In May last year, the Director called my husband and threatened to remove him. No reasons were given and he was shouted at him for 30 minutes.
My husband was shaken and could not understand what had happened. Naran asked us to chant “I AM A BEING OF VIOLET FIRE. I AM PURITY OF GOD DESIRES.”
Naran also asked us to chant and write— “OM GAM GANAPATHAYE NAMAHA”.
We have continued to do it every day from then on.
The director apologized
Within a week of this chanting, the Director came and apologized to my husband for his outburst. He told my husband that he hope that my husband would not quit because of the outburst.
We were surprised and grateful at the turn of events. We continued to write the Ganesh mantra and be relaxed.
Surprise became Shock
In June, my husband was called again and the Director said he would put him on probation for the job. This really disturbed my husband and he couldn’t sleep or eat.
Naran advised us to write (the Bach Flower Remedies) – “ELM, WATER VIOLET, HOLLY, VINE, HORNBEAM” in a piece of paper and keep it in my husband’s pocket and do the same in another paper and keep it under the pillow. And Naran asked me to chant (Bach Flower Remedies) “RED CHESTNUT, VINE”.
And to improve the working atmosphere, Naran advised my husband to chant the switch words, “LOVE, THANK, TOGETHER DIVINE”. My husband began to juggle these new responsibilities. His job was reduced to 75% time from 100%. However, he had to work for 100% of the time.
Now comes a big surprise
Six months later, we had a surprise when the administrators asked people to submit their job descriptions and responsibilities for comparing it with what people were getting paid for across the nation. My husband’s position was also called for reclassification. Naran asked us to chant: “GENTIAN, LARCH, THANK, TOGETHER DIVINE ORDER COUNT NOW DONE”.
Back to square one – problems started again
On December 10th, we returned to the same critical situation when, my husband’s Director called him and made him sign a memorandum saying he would fix all machines within December 20th. My husband had been working with the companies for months and nothing had been resolved. The Director was aware of all this.
Naran advised us to download a picture of MUSTARD (Bach flower) and PINK TOURMALINE (gem remedy) and paste both on the name of my husband. And also chant the switch words “TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”.
Everything went smoothly like a whistle
Thanks to these divine interventions, the deadline passed off smoothly without an incident.
But the biggest challenge was negotiating the annual review that was due at the end of the month. The annual review would determine if he would stay or go. In the current economic market, it was very hard to land another job. Living in the US without citizenship meant that we had to show continuous employment status. We continued to chant TOGETHER CHANGE NOW and write the Ganapathi mantra daily.
Annual review came on the right time
The annual review was postponed to January. It so happened that Divine took care of everything so beautifully. On Thursday, his immediate supervisor completed my husband’s annual review and gave him glowing references. They also discussed about my husband getting more help in the lab, and reinstating his job to 100% from 75% that he is currently on.
Three days later, the Director who was shouting at him all the time, said that there was no need for another review and he had nothing to add or change to the review already performed, and he agreed with everything. Everyone who knows the Director says this is nothing short of a miracle!
The director accepted his failings openly
Last week, the Director called my husband privately and told him that his personality was that of a person who magnified the negative. From his interactions with my husband he is realizing that he had to appreciate everything positive and not pay so much importance to the negative.
My husband said he politely thanked him and left, but inside he was shouting ‘Together Divine’ in a deafening crescendo. He felt so happy that he didn’t have to say a word for this change to come over! The flowers, gems, the switch words are so beautiful and so powerful!
We successfully sailed through the stressful phase
We are grateful for the divine to have helped us through this difficult and stressful phase. The chants helped us stay focused and positive and not panic. We found time daily to chant ‘Together Divine’ and write ‘Om Gam Ganapathayae Namaha.’
Lessons learned
We understand and are grateful that our future unfolds in small clear steps.
We have the opportunity to be watchful, present and steer the direction of our life.
Naran taught us patiently and gently to keep our mind open to the gifts that every situation brings in and not be carry our old patterns with us.
We are continuing to learn.
Naran
Thank you for sharing. What we need is trust in divinity. Yours has vindicated that. Best of luck!!!
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