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The Bach Flower Remedy Chicory

Key words

Possessiveness, Self-Love, Self-Pity, Always Demanding, Noticeable, Attracting Attention

Indications

• They try to attract others attention: for example, infants attract attention by crying when you leave them alone or we try to impress others sometimes by flattery.
• Will be overeager to help.
• They get angry, if they find no gratitude from the person benefited by them.
• Their possessive nature can make the opposite person as a Centaury. Please note here, fear of rejection indicates a Centaury, while the person who instils a fear of rejection on others is Chicory.
• Chicory will not give anything free – there is a hidden agenda behind every transaction he makes.
• A Chicory person always attracts the attention of others.
• Always demanding and expects a great deal from others.
• He is possessive, extremely interfering, secretly manipulating and easily hurt.
• He has a feeling of unwanted.
• Over protection and too much parenting.
• Constantly concerned with the affairs of the family, always interfering.
• Behind all Chicory type, there lies a deep lack of fulfilment, often a feeling of not being loved.
• Desires for company for his selfish ends.
• He is a stingy person.
• Easily offended or hurt – self-pity.
• Pretending illness to attract others pity.
• Always speaks about what others owe her.
• Extremely nagging – the in-laws remedy.
• Thinks, feels that everyone is there for his help.
• Goes to the extent of weeping or pretending to be ill to get his things done.
• There is constant fear of loss.
• Emotional demanding always.
• Behind the Chicory state, an internal emptiness is more.
• Watching over the needs, wishes and progress of family and friends.
• Always ready to comment, to correct others or to advise others.
• The emotional control is subtle, making others dependent.
• He will manipulate to impose his will.
• The Chicory finds it hard to let go, feels easily offended or hurt; becomes ill to gain sympathy, always expecting others to live in the feeling of gratitude to her.
• Chicory children throw temper tantrums.
• The Chicory child will weep and get things done.
• If weeping doesn’t pay, he will indulge in flattery or helps you in house hold work.
• Always demanding, tries to seek attention.
• The Chicory baby always wants her to be held in the lap all the time.
• The Chicory child likes to be carried always.
• Would weep if said anything.
• Over care and over concern for hurt feelings.
• Always seeks company.
• Heart Chakra is closed for Chicory people.  Pray to Chicory to be active in the Heart Chakra.

Chicory says

• Threatening: “I will do homework, but I will not go to the music class.  If you agree for my condition, then I will finish up all my homework now”.
• “I am angry at his ingratitude, and he cheated me. I have done so much to him” – Chicory + Chestnut bud.
• Chicory person makes others feel guilty by saying, “You have just used me.”
• “After all that I have done for you, this is how you treat me”.
• “I have given her a sari on her birthday and all that I get from her on my birth day is a card.”
• Emotional black mailing – “How can I live without you?”
• “Think of what I have done for you” and then bursting in to tears.
• “My dear son, I miss you so much, the house is vacant.”
• He sometimes become ill, he may resort to black mail. “I will study after this, if you allow me to browse the Internet.”
• “People should respect me.”

Ailments

• Eating disorders
• Hysterical Neurosis  – convulsion type
• Histrionic personality disorder

Usage

• “Live and let live” is the positive Chicory.
• Chicory + Walnut – when the child starts schooling
• Chicory + Walnut – for a second wife
• Chicory + Star of Bethlehem – if a person whom you love is dead
• Chicory – for separation.
• Chicory: I want love and attention
• Chicory: I feel that nobody recognises my importance
• Chicory: I have a fear of loneliness
• Chicory: I feel I am neglected
• Chicory: I feel unloved by my loved ones
• Chicory: Others say that I am of a highly interfering type
• Chicory: I can’t be alone; I always need company
• Chicory: I often enjoy giving my opinions and advice to others; but I feel hurt/offended when they reject my advice
• Mimulus, Chicory: My child stays close to my side; rarely goes alone; does nothing alone
• Chicory: Cries a lot when starting for the school
• Chicory, Mimulus: The child becomes upset even if mildly criticized
• Mimulus, Chicory: Burst into tears for no apparent reason
• Chicory: The child clings to mother