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In-laws are separating us

MALS

I have been chanting “BE TINY BOW CONCEDE TOGETHER PRAISE DIVINE”, but no response yet.

Please help as everybody from my in-laws side are doing everything to separate us and are also not allowing me to come back home.

My husband has also not communicated to me since past 5 months.

They had sent us notice 5 months back and are also not ready to talk to any of my family members to sort things.

I love him lot and want to save our marriage.

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for your in-laws.

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My husband stopped drinking

Discussion

Raji: I am married for 8 years. I have a daughter who is 7yrs old. When I became pregnant, I got separated from my husband.

Naran: Are you still separated?

Raji: No. We are living together for the last one year.

Naran: What is your problem since you had been together?

Raji: My husband is an alcoholic. Once in 3 or 4 days, he gets drunk as well as daily consuming Pan Parag (a tobacco product).

Naran: Since how long he has been an alcoholic?

Raji: According to my in laws he started drinking from his graduation days.

Naran: Explain his behavior after he gets drunk?

Raji: He will get angry at me and my daughter; will shout.

Naran: What does he shout about?

Raji:  He will say, “Nobody respects me. There is no respect for me even in my own house. My daughter does not respect me. My friends, my employees, and my parents don’t respect me either. I will teach all of them a lesson”.  

After the outburst, he will start weeping.

Naran’s Analysis

To be respected is the key word for ROCK WATER.

He is weeping. By losing control of himself, he weeps. Therefore, add CHERRY PLUM.

Rock Water will ultimately turn into either CHESTNUT BUD or VINE.

Discussion (cont…)

Naran: How is his behavior when he is not under the influence of alcohol?

Raji: His behavior is quite normal only. He shows his love for his daughter. In fact he sincerely made efforts for our reunion.

(Naran questioned further about her husband’s profession)

Naran: What is he doing?

Raji: He is running a Screen Printing unit. But it is not doing well.

Naran: How does he manage to pay his workers and take care of the family then?

Raji: He is honest in paying out the dues. Somehow, he will manage to pay the workers first, and then gives me money once a week.

Naran’s Analysis

Honesty – ROCK WATER

When one tries to be honest, in spite of adverse circumstances, self-control is employed to the maximum in one area.

He is so self-controlled in the area of finance that he loses self-control in some other area. Thus when he drinks, he loses his control and starts weeping.

Discussion (cont…)

Naran: Suppose if he can’t pay his dues, then how does he manage?

Raji: Naran, one more thing, I have forgotten to tell you. Every month before paying the rent, he would abscond.

Naran: Why?

Raji: He cannot pay the house rent by first of every month. Therefore, he feels ashamed to meet the house owner. So he would not stay in the house during the first week of the month.

Instead, he would stay with his parents for 4 or 5 days, arrange for the money, and will return back home after paying the rent. He has been doing this for a long time. Though, he would never cheat anybody.

Naran’s Analysis

 Honest and at the same time an escapist. This is the case of a ROCK WATER person turning into CHESTNUT BUD character. On the due date, he would abscond (Chestnut Bud).

Key Words for Rock Water

To be respected:  Ego and pride; self control, honesty.

Self controlled, honest person expects self respect. As a principle, he would never cheat.

Here the husband doesn’t get respect. His ego is hurt when he is insulted. He loses his control when he drinks.

One more interesting point is Rock Water father will face a Cherry Plum daughter.

Prescription  

ROCK WATER, CHERRY PLUM, CHESTNUT BUD and WALNUT (to break the habit)

Put the combination in the common drinking water, so that everybody will get the healing effect.

Feedback after 15 days

Raji: From the second day onwards, he stopped Pan Parag, and after a week he has stopped drinking.

Chicory

The Bach Flower Remedy Chicory

Key words

Possessiveness, Self-Love, Self-Pity, Always Demanding, Noticeable, Attracting Attention

Indications

  • They try to attract others attention: for example, infants attract attention by crying when you leave them alone or we try to impress others sometimes by flattery.
  • Will be overeager to help.
  • They get angry, if they find no gratitude from the person benefited by them.
  • Their possessive nature can make the opposite person as a Centaury. Please note here, fear of rejection indicates a Centaury, while the person who instils a fear of rejection on others is Chicory.
  • Chicory will not give anything free – there is a hidden agenda behind every transaction he makes.
  • A Chicory person always attracts the attention of others.
  • Always demanding and expects a great deal from others.
  • He is possessive, extremely interfering, secretly manipulating and easily hurt.
  • He has a feeling of unwanted.
  • Over protection and too much parenting.
  • Constantly concerned with the affairs of the family, always interfering.
  • Behind all Chicory type, there lies a deep lack of fulfilment, often a feeling of not being loved.
  • Desires for company for his selfish ends.
  • He is a stingy person.
  • Easily offended or hurt – self-pity.
  • Pretending illness to attract others pity.
  • Always speaks about what others owe her.
  • Extremely nagging – the in-laws remedy.
  • Thinks, feels that everyone is there for his help.
  • Goes to the extent of weeping or pretending to be ill to get his things done.
  • There is constant fear of loss.
  • Emotional demanding always.
  • Behind the Chicory state, an internal emptiness is more.
  • Watching over the needs, wishes and progress of family and friends.
  • Always ready to comment, to correct others or to advise others.
  • The emotional control is subtle, making others dependent.
  • He will manipulate to impose his will.
  • The Chicory finds it hard to let go, feels easily offended or hurt; becomes ill to gain sympathy, always expecting others to live in the feeling of gratitude to her.
  • Chicory children throw temper tantrums.
  • The Chicory child will weep and get things done.
  • If weeping doesn’t pay, he will indulge in flattery or helps you in house hold work.
  • Always demanding, tries to seek attention.
  • The Chicory baby always wants her to be held in the lap all the time.
  • The Chicory child likes to be carried always.
  • Would weep if said anything.
  • Over care and over concern for hurt feelings.
  • Always seeks company.
  • Heart Chakra is closed for Chicory people.  Pray to Chicory to be active in the Heart Chakra.

Chicory says

  • Threatening: “I will do homework, but I will not go to the music class.  If you agree for my condition, then I will finish up all my homework now”.
  • “I am angry at his ingratitude, and he cheated me. I have done so much to him” – Chicory + Chestnut bud.
  • Chicory person makes others feel guilty by saying, “You have just used me.”
  • “After all that I have done for you, this is how you treat me”.
  • “I have given her a sari on her birthday and all that I get from her on my birth day is a card.”
  • Emotional black mailing – “How can I live without you?”
  • “Think of what I have done for you” and then bursting in to tears.
  • “My dear son, I miss you so much, the house is vacant.”
  • He sometimes become ill, he may resort to black mail. “I will study after this, if you allow me to browse the Internet.”
  • “People should respect me.”

Ailments

  • Eating disorders
  • Hysterical Neurosis  – convulsion type
  • Histrionic personality disorder

Usage

  • “Live and let live” is the positive Chicory.
  • Chicory + Walnut – when the child starts schooling
  • Chicory + Walnut – for a second wife
  • Chicory + Star of Bethlehem – if a person whom you love is dead
  • Chicory – for separation.
  • Chicory: I want love and attention
  • Chicory: I feel that nobody recognises my importance
  • Chicory: I have a fear of loneliness
  • Chicory: I feel I am neglected
  • Chicory: I feel unloved by my loved ones
  • Chicory: Others say that I am of a highly interfering type
  • Chicory: I can’t be alone; I always need company
  • Chicory: I often enjoy giving my opinions and advice to others; but I feel hurt/offended when they reject my advice
  • Mimulus, Chicory: My child stays close to my side; rarely goes alone; does nothing alone
  • Chicory: Cries a lot when starting for the school
  • Chicory, Mimulus: The child becomes upset even if mildly criticized
  • Mimulus, Chicory: Burst into tears for no apparent reason
  • Chicory: The child clings to mother

Full of physical torture

Harjot

My cousin is fighting for divorce as her 13 months marriage was full of physical torture. Unnecessary delay in hearing is making it impossible for her to concentrate on studies for a public exam.

Please advise switch words so that she can come out of that marriage and also get back the entire gold and dowry, which is not returned back by her in-laws.

Her father gave huge dowry which was more than 13 lakhs.

At present, she is trying to find a job. Next week she has an interview. Suggest also for getting that job.

Naran

Chant “SUPREME LOVE SEAL, LIFT KIND DIVINE”.

Explanation

Only supreme love can lift one from the seemingly unsolvable problem. With its kindness, it not only lifts but completes it, which is beneficial to both the parties.

Love is lacking here and we call for the supreme love to intervene.

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Bring in a feeling of security

Bagavad Gita Book

अच्छेद्योअ्यमदाह्योअ्यमक्लेद्योअ्शोष्य एव च

नित्यः सर्वगतः स्थाणुरचलोअ्यं सनातनः

Healing Notes on Bagavad Gita Chapter 2 Verse 24

Naran

Uncleavable, incombustible, it is not liable to be drenched or dried up; eternal, all-pervading, stable and unmoving. It is forever and forever.

No pain (fire) can kill you; no sadness (water) can drown you; no worry (air) can dry you; no event (space and earth) can break you.

Survival fear is always there in our thinking… To feel secured is the desire of every human being.

In life, relationships make us insecure; our working place makes us insecure.

How to bring in the state of security?

For people who are unstable in their profession…

Who have lower back pain…

Who have fear of death for unknown reason…

Who have unknown fear …

And people who are fearful of in-laws …

And for people who feel unstable…

Listen to the Verse 24 of SRIMAD BAGAVAD GITA, or read it 11 times.

Any audio version of this verse can be looped and listened continuously.

You can paste the verse in paper and keep it under the pillow.

This brings back the feeling of security –the original SAT which is forgotten by the mind.

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Should I divorce?

GDS

Mine was a love marriage. With parents’ consent we got married 1.5 years back. But, I am not happy with my marital life.

There is always interference of in-laws. We don’t lead a very happy and peaceful life.

On top of that, my husband hits me, when his temper goes out of control. We argue and fight for small things and end up with hatred. There is no romance and happiness.

Should I divorce, or is there any other remedy?

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise.

Chant “BOW CONCEDE, END SHUT LIMIT, TOGETHER DIVINE”

Explanation

BOW CONCEDE END SHUT LIMIT: Surrender the ego, which comes in the way of harmony, and allowing the inner self to take control of the life.

TOGETHER DIVINE: Find harmony

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Find the right plot of land

Urvashi

We are now living at my in-laws place with 2 children in one bedroom. My husband wants to buy a plot of land to build our own house.

I shall be grateful that you please give mantra and other remedy that I can do, so that we quickly find a plot of land at a good price with no blockages for financing (partly by us) and no obstacle to get a loan at bank to acquire same.

Naran

Chant “SWEET CHESTNUT, WATER VIOLET, GORSE, WOLF HELP DIVINE land NOW DONE”.

Urvashi

I am very grateful for the mantra given to me. Now, we have found the right plot of land which is bigger than what we were looking for, yet the price is very good.

Part payment is being done and we’ll have only one month to complete payment. However my husband needs to go abroad for 2 weeks for work starting next week.

Kindly give mantra and remedy for me to do, so that our loan request at the bank be accepted without delay before end of May 2014.

Naran

The same is to be continued.

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My mother-in-law’s best friend

Rajalekshmi

http://reachnaran.com/your-in-laws-are-your-parents/

Beautiful remedy for all the married couples from Naran!

Only after becoming Naran’s student, I learned to enjoy my divine life.

Now, I and my mother-in-law became best friends after doing the forgiving exercises and after past-life healing class.

LOVE THANKS DIVINE to our great teacher NARAN!

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Vine

Naran

The Bach Flower Remedy Vine

Key words

Dominating, Ruthless, Ambitious, Totally Arrogant

Message

If you don’t know how to be a servant, you will always be bossed over

Indications

  • A Vine boss would claim, “I have absolute control over my staff”.
  • You ask some questions to your boss, about the institution you are working for. Your Vine Boss would reply, “Don’t ask me any questions. Do what I say”.
  • People become fearful, when they come.
  • Ruthlessly disregard others
  • Vine will have his way at any cost.
  • Ruthlessly disregards the opinion of others.
  • Everybody should dance to his tunes.
  • The Vine person is cruel, pitiless without conscience.  He will instil fear in others.
  • Can’t tolerate anyone contradicting him.
  • He beats others.
  • Vine father will develop fear in his child.  The means justifies the end.
  • When you find it difficult to obey others
  • A Vine child will not obey.

Vine says…

  • I am the ruler. You are the ruled.
  • I can question anybody in authority and shake them.
  • I impose my opinion on my children. My word is final for them.
  • I keep my employees on their toes.
  • I will accept what my superior say but with my subordinates, I impose my will.
  • Others say that I impose my will and go into rage when contradicted

Usage

  • For any crisis situations, as it gives you a good presence of mind and tremendous will power to handle the crisis. Of course, take it only when there is a crisis.
  • You are a man to be looked up to when there is a crisis, and a helping hand in crisis.
  • At work when you are promoted and asked to lead others à Vine + Walnut for a month.
  • To handle a dominant partner and in-laws, who squeeze too much of joy out of your life take à Centaury + Vine + Hornbeam. In these situations, you need to ask the questions: how to manage your life? How can you come out of this predicament? Whether you can come out? If you have the question how to initiate the process, then take à Cerato + Vine + Hornbeam + Centaury + Walnut.
  • To manage arrogant and adamant children à Cerato + Centaury + Vine + Hornbeam + Walnut
  • Your purpose in life is to lead others
  • To use your presence of mind.
  • Vine, Cherry Plum: I am becoming violent in my temper

Ailments

  • Multiple sclerosis – Vine. Patches of degeneration in the nerve cells of the brain and spinal cord.
  • Anorexia – Rock water + Vine
  • Sclerosis: (Sclerosis) the hardening of any part from the growth of fibrous tissues.
  • Athero astero sclerosis: the hardening of arteries (elasticity is lost)
  • Symptoms: disturbance of speech, vision and micturition and muscular weakness of limbs.
  • Might be affected by passive – aggressive personality disorder, disruptive behaviour, disorders, especially conduct disorders and anti – social disorders.

Your in-laws are your parents

JEY

I am married a few months ago and have problems with my mother-in-law. She is the possessive type.

When my husband, she and I go out, she wants to sit in front in the car. Whenever my husband and I go out for a vacation, she would call him and ask him to come back.

She decides everything for us and we have no freedom as husband and wife. My husband follows her blindly without questioning.

How am I to solve this problem? I want my MIL to leave us to enjoy our marriage life.

I love my parents very much and I want my parents to stay near me and I want to take care of them forever.

At the moment my dad is jobless and he is always sad because of that. I hope he can get a job somewhere near my place so that my family will always be next to me. And, I want my parents to live long.

Naran

Write your parents name. Draw a circle around the names. Draw one more circle around the first one. Write in the gap, “SWEET CHESTNUT, WALNUT, GREEN TOURMALINE”.

Love your mother-in-law as much as you love your parents. What all you want to do for your parents, do for your mother-in-law.

Change your thinking and stop resenting. Do this for one month.

Thank her for allowing you to be with your husband. Daily thank her like this.

In the night, chant “TOGETHER CHANGE NOW” till you sleep.

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