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Roles People Play
Reddy
Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.
At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.
In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.
However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.
In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.
However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.
At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.
Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.
Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.
Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.
Naran
Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.
What is that we lack in any role?
Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?
The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.
BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.
What are the negative mental states of Beech?
- Unable to understand other man’s point of view
- Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
- Intolerance
- Fault-finding
- Desire to control or change the other person
If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?
BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.
WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.
For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.
“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.
Rushrush
Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.
I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….
I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….
I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!
Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……
Golden words are to be repeated
Leela
As guided by you in the past few weeks, I am calm and peaceful by myself. Now that the marriage is round the corner (of my niece – husband’s brother’s daughter), I need to attend.
All the past incidents of harassment, sarcastic remarks, aloofness etc. of my husband’s Anni is coming to my mind and I need enough strength to face it all this time.
I want to raise above all this silly behavior of others and come out successfully, to neutralize my karma.
Naran
Chant “CHOCOLATE CONCEDE TOGETHER DIVINE”.
Chant “I am sorry. Please forgive me”, as many times as possible.
Your anger and resentment – whether it is right or not – will upset your stomach, which in turn increases your insecurity.
Take the flower remedies AGRIMONY, WILLOW and CHERRY PLUM.
Leela
Since yesterday, I am practicing as advised by you. I do not understand, why, often I get this thought flashed in my mind that I need to move away from my husband?
I do not know if it is a natural process. It is a soul-searching experience for me. I need your divine help and guidance.
Naran
Soul searching is to happen within. It does not depend on outside person or event.
Leela
I attended the marriage and chanted the Switch Words as advised by you.
I am back to Bangalore.
I am trying to find the golden nugget … May be my spiritual awareness is not enough to find one.
As I have disclosed to you before, I have this urgent need to go back to work in UK. I have contacted my ex-colleagues, friends, and contacts and passed on my resume.
Initially, they were very encouraging, told me to help me out with a job.
But as days went by, there is no communication from them regarding my application status.
Also, I have applied many jobs. It is Apply, Apply, but no reply.
I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE FIND JOB COUNT NOW ORDER DONE” and also recently after reading one of your blogs regarding chakra cleansing, I have chanting Bija Mantras (OM LUM…)
In between, I am chanting forgive exercise to my husband too. Please advise, what can be chanted.
Naran
Move away with love in the heart and not in resentment
For job: chant “CRYSTAL GORSE WOLF REACH HELP JOB COUNT NOW DONE”
Leela
I am writing this mail, rather after a long time. I am following the chants and forgive exercise as advised by you.
There are lots of changes in me. I am able to forgive many things now.
Though, I still remember the events, which had caused me so much anger, hurt and other negative emotions.
After forgive exercise, these emotions have drastically reduced to an intensity of zero!
I am now able to appreciate the switch word “CHOCOLATE” as suggested by you.
The golden nugget in my case is to get re introduced to healing techniques through you.
Thank you very much for your Grace and support you have extended to me.
The top most emotional layer of healing has taken place. As a result, my relationship with my husband has improved.
As regards to finding a job, this is the next layer to be dealt with. I am chanting and many times writing the Switch words.
CRYSTAL has strengthened my intention of job seeking.
I am now more confident and beginning to understand what I want. My previous emotional state of confusion together with mixed feelings is no more. I am more calm and focused.
Our friend – WOLF is bringing me some leads for job searching and I am working on it.