Together Relationship

Peace of Mind for the Family

Nisha

Please give me some switch words for peace of mind for the family.

Naran S Balakumar

Chant “AGRIMONY”.

This (Bach Flower) will give you peace of mind.

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Bonding Developed Between Father and Child

Roopa

Switch Word “CHOCOLATE” brought the bonding between the father and the child. It’s so great.

The father and the son, father and the daughter would never go together and always hate each other.

Now, when these chits were put under the pillow, for the first time the son stayed with his father when the mother went out for some out station work. They had a wonderful time together.

Thanks Naran for the wonderful gift to bring the family members together. This is one of the major defects in every family in this new generation.

How to criticize others?

SD

By nature I am very candid and not diplomatic.

Also, I am very open to negative feedback too, when someone is giving me a feedback – at home or at work.

However, at home (mine is a joint family), everyone dislikes me since I am very frank. Although, I am very efficient with house work and do not compromise on my duties.

One of my boss (I have 2 bosses) was very good to me and appreciated my work etc, until a while ago when I was frank in expressing some work-related issue.

Now one boss is still ok, since he knows that I am good at work and I am very frank – that is my nature.

Another boss is all angry with me and at every meeting makes sure that he puts me down or talks negatively when it comes to my work.

Can I chant something please, especially that both my husband and my boss should start appreciating me?

Naran 

If you want to maintain your candidness, you can get these only.

You do not point out the mistake only. You point out the good points also. If you want to point the mistake then do it with love.

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Husband is angry, while I am smiling

Sreelu 

I am chanting “OM HREEM TAHA” and also giving it to my family members. I feel good.

I am even chanting it holding my husband’s photo and my daughters too, as ours is a short-tempered family. I am feeling a difference in the way we are handling things.

When my husband is angry I am smiling and answering. Sometimes, he is ignoring my comments.

However, I see good results. How many days shall I continue doing this?

Naran

Continue.

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Roles People Play

Reddy

Quite often, we are required to play different roles with respect to the same person. In the process lot of misunderstandings occur due to perception at both ends.

At work, we have a subordinate who is also a friend. This friend does not play his role in the office as required.

In the role of a friend, you try to protect him in various ways besides telling him / her about the problems in a friendly manner.

However, if it is not adhered to, it may go the extreme end that you may even need to terminate him/her. It is a very difficult choice. You are torn between both the roles.

In the earlier days, we could take a very dharmic stand and take decisions.

However, now we are required to play a role negotiating happiness for various people in the name of Professionalism / Management etc and suffer.

At home, we have to act as a Parent, Friend, Teacher, friend to your kids.

Often a role is over played by each of the participant resulting in clashes and misunderstanding. Each forgets that they are over stepping on the other role due to inherent flair for one.

Thus, a parent who is generally has a strong Vasanas of a Teacher in making, preaches more and is not able to know when to cut off and act as a friend.

Please give your recommendation to solve the above by way of flower remedy.

Naran

Whatever the role we play, let us ask a simple question.

What is that we lack in any role?

Basically, every relationship is based on communication. How do we communicate? What do we communicate? What do we want to communicate?

The objective of any communication is to reach out to the other person.

BEECH is the remedy for improving our communication.

What are the negative mental states of Beech?

  • Unable to understand other man’s point of view
  • Unable to appreciate other man’s priorities
  • Intolerance
  • Fault-finding
  • Desire to control or change the other person

If one is in one of the above mental states, right communication will not take place. Here, how Beech can help us?

BEECH can bridge the gap between two persons and makes one understand other man’s point of view.

WALNUT should be taken along with Beech. Walnut can bring in change in the mind. A changed outlook and a changed view will give a different communication tool.

For you Mr. Reddy, in addition to taking BEECH and WALNUT, you take CENTAURY also, while communicating in the office.

“What would my friend think? Will he be hurt, if I say this?” These expressions belong to negative mental state of Centaury.

Rushrush

Wonderfully explained….your site is a healthy addiction.

I feel the need to read it like a holy book everyday…sorting out life’s many questions and seeking the right answer….

I follow so many remedies you advice, go through the topics so many times, sometimes apply my 2 cents worth as well….analyse life’s situation from a different angle….

I have changed so much in my mind and heart…..all because of being a part of this wonderful site and your guidance!!!!

Thank you ever so much…….Naran….THERE’s still so much to absorb from you……..regards……

Free from Emotional Trauma

Guapa

I recently broke up with my boyfriend. And, I have been feeling hurt terribly. I would like us to come back together.

Casually, I came across your website, have tried some of the mantras and even the forgiveness exercise.

I still wake up with a heavy feeling and with a lot of emotional pain. Please guide me in this difficult period.

Naran

  1. Chant “IGNATIA, CHICORY, STAR OF BETHLEHEM”
  2. While going to bed, be in the SAFETY MUDRA posture (Thumb touching the tips of little and ring fingers on both the hands).

You will be free from emotional trauma.

Explanation

For grief and hurt feelings because of broken love: (gem) IGNATIA

Come out of love pangs: CHICORY

Come out of shock and to recoup: STAR OF BETHLEHEM

The Safety Mudra otherwise called as Safe and Secure/Pran Mudra will keep you in peace.

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Afraid my family members will hurt me

Sankar

I am from a joint family. We are living under the same roof.

I had used my extended family’s assets and had failed in the business venture that I had undertaken. I had pledged our ancestral property – which belongs to my extended family.

Now, I am forced to sell it and as one could expect they are not happy and they curse me openly. I am afraid that while sleeping, one of them could hurt me gravely, out of intense anger on me.

Naran

Take the flower remedies MIMULUS and HOLLY.

Explanation

Fear of getting hurt: Mimulus

Not trusting (family members): Holly

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Is he telling truth or not

FTRRS

Is there any way of knowing whether person is telling truth or not?

Naran

Chant “AGRIMONY, CHESTNUT BUD”

Explanation

Person who hides: AGRIMONY

Person who lies or avoids telling the truth: CHESTNUT BUD

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How to love parents who are cruel

Grace

My parents have been cruel to each other and to me in various ways. How to love them?

Naran

The irony is we know how to get angry or how to blame. Who taught this? How does it come to us so naturally?

While learning to live from childhood, we have been learning wrongly. Unfortunately, there is no teacher. We observe, understand and form a thought, conclusion and start believing.

We should understand that when by being in resentment, resentment only grows.

By being in a state of anger, anger only grows.

In spite of our knowing that anger and resentment cannot achieve what we want, yet we will be in that state.

You may not love them. Can you not help yourself by getting away from resentment?

See what you cannot see. Don’t see what you see.

When you stop judging, you start observing. When you observe, you understand what you have not so far understood.

Any feeling that blocks our progress can be released. Get any feeling that can enhance your life progress.

Grace

Thank you for such a complete answer. I am grateful.

I know intellectually that holding on to my judgment of them is causing me problems. I will try to do EFT or something to reduce my resentment (although I never call it that!).

Some part of me thinks it would be wrong to allow them to just be who they are. As if the judgment will save me from becoming like them.

Naran

Don’t drag them into your life now.

Unite all the parts.

Forget what happened and treat them as new persons and be neutral first. Even the slightest resentment against them, will bring the same type of persons in your life.

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Convince others easily

Pradosh

Plz suggest SW to convince others easily.

Naran

Chant “VERVAIN”

Explanation

Along with HEATHER the Bach Flower Remedy VERVAIN is good for sales persons.

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